Provided you don’t live in squalor, keeping most children alive isn’t that hard and most of it is quite intuitive. The harder part typically is making sure they don’t turn into assholes. Most people vibe that as well.
Also, there is no shortage of random people giving you often unsolicited advice, especially if you’re expecting your first kid. You can make up for the lack of direct experience with shared knowledge from others.
I think as far as you can attribute the assholery to the parental home, it’s pretty much a bell curve distribution. Most people turn out well most of the time. And the edge cases just stand out more in our perception.
My initial post wasn’t meant to be the definitive comment on the subject. We mustn’t forget that it isn’t just the parents that have a hand in this. The environment where you grew up has an influence as well. And it is my observation that a culture that rewards individual achievements more than any effort towards the collective good will naturally create more assholes.
Provided you don’t live in squalor, keeping most children alive isn’t that hard and most of it is quite intuitive. The harder part typically is making sure they don’t turn into assholes. Most people vibe that as well.
Also, there is no shortage of random people giving you often unsolicited advice, especially if you’re expecting your first kid. You can make up for the lack of direct experience with shared knowledge from others.
Unfortunately, the failure rate on this is quite high. Especially if the parents are also assholes.
It’s tough to break that cycle. And even if you think you’re not an asshole there’s a good chance that your kids will think you are one.
Ideally they change their minds eventually.
I think as far as you can attribute the assholery to the parental home, it’s pretty much a bell curve distribution. Most people turn out well most of the time. And the edge cases just stand out more in our perception.
My initial post wasn’t meant to be the definitive comment on the subject. We mustn’t forget that it isn’t just the parents that have a hand in this. The environment where you grew up has an influence as well. And it is my observation that a culture that rewards individual achievements more than any effort towards the collective good will naturally create more assholes.