On one hand you’d think you’re doing something good, helping a friend.
On the other hand, so consider that everyone you know at this moment, is like that because of what they’ve gone through. All that trauma, hardship, everything that happens to you from birth, forms your personality. Take that away from them, and at best you just weaken the person, at worst, you completely change their personality. You can’t know what past experience makes one stronger.
This is actually largely why the uber wealthy don’t seem to have a grasp at the everyday people’s struggle. They’re so far detached from it because they never really experienced it.
Also do consider that while today we might have various sympathetic treatments for a number of mental issues, even just 20-30 years ago a lot of the treatments would mean being drugged out of your mind 24/7 to ensure you’re not a source of harm for others or yourself…
They might stay your friends, but would they be the same people? I think that’s the important angle.
Our struggles define us. For example, for me, did it suck to be fuck-ass poor throughout university, often surviving on rice only for weeks, depending on friends? Sure. Would I trade it for a comfortable study life? Hell no. That struggle helped me grow, as much as it sucked.
As an external observer, sure, seeing your friends scarred sucks, but who gave you the right to remove that trauma, and change who they are?
I’m a bit split on this.
On one hand you’d think you’re doing something good, helping a friend.
On the other hand, so consider that everyone you know at this moment, is like that because of what they’ve gone through. All that trauma, hardship, everything that happens to you from birth, forms your personality. Take that away from them, and at best you just weaken the person, at worst, you completely change their personality. You can’t know what past experience makes one stronger.
This is actually largely why the uber wealthy don’t seem to have a grasp at the everyday people’s struggle. They’re so far detached from it because they never really experienced it.
Also do consider that while today we might have various sympathetic treatments for a number of mental issues, even just 20-30 years ago a lot of the treatments would mean being drugged out of your mind 24/7 to ensure you’re not a source of harm for others or yourself…
I have a bit more hope that my friends would still be my friends without their scars.
They might stay your friends, but would they be the same people? I think that’s the important angle.
Our struggles define us. For example, for me, did it suck to be fuck-ass poor throughout university, often surviving on rice only for weeks, depending on friends? Sure. Would I trade it for a comfortable study life? Hell no. That struggle helped me grow, as much as it sucked.
As an external observer, sure, seeing your friends scarred sucks, but who gave you the right to remove that trauma, and change who they are?