Thank you. I was thinking the same thing. Some things it makes sense to host in your home. Things like large media, home automation, etc. Some things it doesn’t. Like DNS, service that require large amounts of egress (most home internet is very asymmetric), anything with a more public face.

Generally it boils down to privacy and reliability. If it’s private, keep it home. If it needs more reliability, put it on a VPS.

My home hardware is just not reliable enough to host something critical. I have redundant systems but it might take a bit to get stuff back.

This idea of it not being self hosted because it’s on somebody else’s computer is just weird.