You’ll basically be doing self therapy. Worth doing some writing or deep thinking on where this aggression is coming from. Reading or hearing podcasts or watching media on the subject tends to help. I would say this needs thinking about in the “cold state” (i.e. when not in heightened emotion and while completely calm and relaxed, but remembering the last undesirable event). Then you can work incrementally on what you can change next time.
Here’s an episode from a podcast I like, to get you started:
When mild-mannered David Banner gets mad he transforms into the raging Incredible Hulk. Dr Laurie Santos loves this comic book tale - because it reflects real life. Intense things like anger, pain, even hunger, can cause us to act in extreme ways that we might not predict beforehand or forgive after.
(She must have gotten so so so many messages for calling him “David Banner”.)
Thank you for sharing that podcast. I think it will help to revisit past experiences from the cold state.
What you said reminds me of the Snickers commercial, “you’re not yourself when you’re hungry.” I’ve been using HALT a lot to recognize when to take a break from whatever activity I’m in.
You’ll basically be doing self therapy. Worth doing some writing or deep thinking on where this aggression is coming from. Reading or hearing podcasts or watching media on the subject tends to help. I would say this needs thinking about in the “cold state” (i.e. when not in heightened emotion and while completely calm and relaxed, but remembering the last undesirable event). Then you can work incrementally on what you can change next time.
Here’s an episode from a podcast I like, to get you started:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L9WZgqcu3QE
Or actual audio podcast of you prefer:
https://podcastindex.org/podcast/453567?episode=33418257763
Hulking Out! Why You Change When You’re Angry
When mild-mannered David Banner gets mad he transforms into the raging Incredible Hulk. Dr Laurie Santos loves this comic book tale - because it reflects real life. Intense things like anger, pain, even hunger, can cause us to act in extreme ways that we might not predict beforehand or forgive after.
(She must have gotten so so so many messages for calling him “David Banner”.)
Thank you for sharing that podcast. I think it will help to revisit past experiences from the cold state.
What you said reminds me of the Snickers commercial, “you’re not yourself when you’re hungry.” I’ve been using HALT a lot to recognize when to take a break from whatever activity I’m in.
Hungry
Angry/Anxious
Lonely
Tired.