But a lot of people choose to be because it gives them a built-in excuse for their perceived failures and faults. I notice with people who ‘struggle’ at life that they continue blame their parents for their failures, and then often end up moving back home anyway and ‘settle’ for a mediocre life because living on their own was ‘too hard’.
I am nothing like my family members because I choose to be different than them. Not the same with many of my peers I grew up with… most of my high school friends were poster children for bad choices or refused to leave the ‘nest’. However, as I have gotten older the limits of my background have been made very obvious to me and as i got even older, I have faced straight up discrimination I hadn’t felt earlier. I ‘pass’ as being two social class above where I was born, but among the upper classes, accomplishment doesn’t matter much and birthright is everything.
That said, I’m talking from a western viewpoint where independence from your family is the goal. There are different cultures where trying to get away from your upbringing/family is consider sacrilegious and families are much more dependent on one another. I had friends who lived at home until 30 and even then their parents dind’t want them to leave, but they were eastern.
I am never sure how time works at all. It’s possible that everything we experience is just rolling out from some original cause, everything happening is just an effect caused by what came before, essentially has already happened, in a way, you cannot change anything.
No.
But a lot of people choose to be because it gives them a built-in excuse for their perceived failures and faults. I notice with people who ‘struggle’ at life that they continue blame their parents for their failures, and then often end up moving back home anyway and ‘settle’ for a mediocre life because living on their own was ‘too hard’.
I am nothing like my family members because I choose to be different than them. Not the same with many of my peers I grew up with… most of my high school friends were poster children for bad choices or refused to leave the ‘nest’. However, as I have gotten older the limits of my background have been made very obvious to me and as i got even older, I have faced straight up discrimination I hadn’t felt earlier. I ‘pass’ as being two social class above where I was born, but among the upper classes, accomplishment doesn’t matter much and birthright is everything.
That said, I’m talking from a western viewpoint where independence from your family is the goal. There are different cultures where trying to get away from your upbringing/family is consider sacrilegious and families are much more dependent on one another. I had friends who lived at home until 30 and even then their parents dind’t want them to leave, but they were eastern.