Do they sacrifice themselves for you or do they sacrifice you for the benefit of themselves?

There’s a poignant scene in Squidbillies where Rusty meets his “mama” and she was like “Oh i didnt want you to grow up in a home and parent who doesn’t love you, or with her if she couldnt benefit from him in any way”

Her honesty about that is seriously refreshing. I had a mother who abused and used the shit out of us and would moan to make us give her permission to treat herself when her entire fucking life was a treat at our expense