The mantle of greatness on my shoulders is getting heavy. It sounds horrible but I totally get why so many of us fall to either affairs, alcohol, or divorce.
Its just SO unrelenting. Its a nightmare. I have no energy to do anything after a 60 hour work week, cooking, cleaning, walking youngest to bed until 11 pm and then waking up at 5. One day off a week. I’m just so fking over it 🤢
60 hour work week. That’s your problem right there.
seriously. even single a 60 hour workweek is going to leave you with zero time to take care of yourself, let alone children.
most people i have known doing 60 hour weeks are the type who are eating every meal out or getting ubereats everynight, and probably outsourcing their laundry/cleaning, etc.
It’s worth pointing out that coupling up often buys more leisure time, at least before kids. Many household tasks benefit from volume where doubling the output doesn’t actually double the work to be done (cooking, laundry) or where combining households basically consolidates two tasks into one (bills, cleaning, home maintenance).
I didn’t have all that much free time when I was single, but those dual income/no kids years were glorious.
I’m doing 54, no kids, still utterly fucked.
A possible challenge is that some men struggle to cut their salary because their job title, salary, lifestyle is a big part of their identity. Take that away and who are they?
You know what makes cutting my salary hard? Everything is far too expensive. Kids even more so.
This type of mentality was way more common maybe 30 years ago but it’s eroding away these days
I think a part of that is being attached to things, to material possessions, to experiences. There’s nothing wrong with it of course, we are in charge of creating our own meaning, but attachment influences behavior and decreases our options.
Ah yes the frivolous attachments of rent, food, and electricity
My teeth would be falling out right now, if I didn’t do a 54 hour work week. I want a part-time job too, so I can actually gain ground.
In my part of the US, it is on average 38k/yr to raise a child to 18. Rent/mortgage is about the same. Not even getting to utilities, food, and healthcare. Life is wildly expensive for families these days.
This is a horrendously dystopian way of looking at life.
Idk, kids are pretty effective at making it clear that you are now the household NPC lol. Or at least that you’ve transitioned to a role as a supporting character.
2nd kid really hammered that one home.
Best way of putting it. We have a set expiry date. Didn’t finish your business by your late-twenties? Too bad, throw it in the thrash.
Time to give society your life back.