The mantle of greatness on my shoulders is getting heavy. It sounds horrible but I totally get why so many of us fall to either affairs, alcohol, or divorce.
Its just SO unrelenting. Its a nightmare. I have no energy to do anything after a 60 hour work week, cooking, cleaning, walking youngest to bed until 11 pm and then waking up at 5. One day off a week. I’m just so fking over it 🤢
seriously. even single a 60 hour workweek is going to leave you with zero time to take care of yourself, let alone children.
most people i have known doing 60 hour weeks are the type who are eating every meal out or getting ubereats everynight, and probably outsourcing their laundry/cleaning, etc.
It’s worth pointing out that coupling up often buys more leisure time, at least before kids. Many household tasks benefit from volume where doubling the output doesn’t actually double the work to be done (cooking, laundry) or where combining households basically consolidates two tasks into one (bills, cleaning, home maintenance).
I didn’t have all that much free time when I was single, but those dual income/no kids years were glorious.
I’m doing 54, no kids, still utterly fucked.