You’re right in that (in)effective would work here, but I did intend to also apply judgment.
It often is not the most effective technique, but I also believe it is often unnecessarily hurtful and used as petty vengeance. I see it as an immature reaction from people who don’t care about the receiver, or haven’t developed other ways to communicate.
Take your shitty boss example : You’re angry at them, and you want to express it. Anger is used to signal your desire to change a situation. If you’re leaving, the only thing left to change is their behavior to future employees.
If you use passive aggressive methods, you’re either hurting them back for simple vengeance, in which case you just don’t care about them as a human being because this hurting serves no purpose, or you’re trying to change their future behavior. In that case, you will probably just paint yourself as an asshole, which will invalidate your position in their mind. It might sometimes work, but I would not consider it effective compared to being direct for example.
You’re right in that (in)effective would work here, but I did intend to also apply judgment. It often is not the most effective technique, but I also believe it is often unnecessarily hurtful and used as petty vengeance. I see it as an immature reaction from people who don’t care about the receiver, or haven’t developed other ways to communicate.
Take your shitty boss example : You’re angry at them, and you want to express it. Anger is used to signal your desire to change a situation. If you’re leaving, the only thing left to change is their behavior to future employees. If you use passive aggressive methods, you’re either hurting them back for simple vengeance, in which case you just don’t care about them as a human being because this hurting serves no purpose, or you’re trying to change their future behavior. In that case, you will probably just paint yourself as an asshole, which will invalidate your position in their mind. It might sometimes work, but I would not consider it effective compared to being direct for example.