The trick is to do both. You objectively accept your limitations and plan around them. You objectively accept flaws and work to improve towards your personal goals without emotionally flogging yourself. To bad doing this requires a bunch of skills, practices, and mental strength we are bad at.

Internalized ableism and capitalist propaganda goes brrr

I sometimes have to stop and ask myself if I’m being so hard because of myself, or the people who were involved in my raising.

Generally works as a snap out from it, though I sometimes have to remember not to verbalize the “Fuck those people”. Unless they somehow end up around me again, then it’s going to be a loud “Fuck you people”.

I feel so seen XD