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Well, it’s a list of "well maintained/moderated servers

Any server that federates with threads, a product of Meta a company known for their low quality moderation and lack of ethics, is clearly not a well maintained/moderated one.

It’s not a new rule. The admin is just applying the sites rules as they are, instead of making exception for threads as many of the techbro admins that are getting their servers excluded have been doing.

Not only is PixelFed not a competitor in terms of users, but the dev is desperate to cooperate and welcome Meta to the Fediverse. So it doesn’t represent any kind of threat for the company’s goals, at least at the moment.

See how quick he was in defending meta after they came with the bug excuse and how quickly he’s adding threads to the fediverse datebase to the point that the clone of Zuckerberg’s account that cannot even fully interact yet is called “the most popular fediverse account”

I think part of the issue with Ello was that they sell themselves as non-corporative social media while maintaining two of the most important characteristics of corporative social media:

• Centralisation and lack of federation
• Being closed-source

The story would have gone completely different if they

• Had made it open-source allowing users to contribute to the project, both as devs and through donations.

• Added decentralisation and federation, allowing others to make their own Ello servers. This could have taken a lot of weight (financial and otherwise) from the developers/founders. Users cost money. Dividing the user base within different servers, pay by and moderated by different people means dividing the costs.

You say this as if the US weren’t behind most atrocities in the world. Of course they won’t do anything.

You say this as if there weren’t like fifty twitter-style microblogging fediverse software

I never used brave. I wasn’t interested in it since I learned it was chromium and all the crypto stuff.

Ulrichs also came up with the concepts of disjunctive bisexuality and conjunctive bisexuality, which are the oldest recorded instances of someone talking about what we nowadays would call Split attraction model and variorientation (disjunctive orientation) Vs periorientation (conjunctive orientation).

Yes and no. LGBT and it’s variations are “neutral”, while queer has a strong anti-assimilationist meaning behind. Queer also can easily represent uncommon or complex identities/orientations that aren’t (easily) represented by the acronym

Then, I’ll suggest taking a look at labels like xirl or girlby/engirl, that express all possible intersections between been a girl and been non binary. Maybe they could work for the other part of your gender.

No, I mean it depends on how each nonbinary person see it.

For some people the base gender is the same, or their gender is related/derived from the binary gender they were assigned. These people may not consider themselves trans, but rather cis or any other gender modality.

There’s no “IMO that’s not the gender they were assigned at birth” when many non-binary people do, in fact, feel they still relate to their AGAB or that their gender and their AGAB are the same or similar.

You don’t need to label the other part if you aren’t sure what is it.

But if you really want to, do you think the second part of your gender could be both girl and NB? Something in-between the two? A girl in a non-binary way? An enby in a girl way?

Have you taken a look at labels like nymgirl, juxera, quella, etc that express a nonbinaryness that is also (in) directly related to girlness?

Yeah, I wasn’t saying that those things cannot be separated, just that they aren’t necessarily.

The label a person uses to describe their gender can be influenced by their presentation, orientation, or the gender roles they want to perform. Someone who says they’re certain gender because they (want to) perform the gender roles associated to that gender isn’t necessarily confusing concepts.

The human gender and attraction experience is so complex that it cannot be put into strict boxes that never mix.

In fact, all of the labels you described here (butch, femme, bear) are all distinct expressions of gender identity, although some of these labels largely overlap with sexuality labels as well, none of them invalidate or have to overlap with gender identity.

My point was that all these labels, apart from being presentations and queer dynamics/roles, are also genders for many people.

Some people are Butch [gender], where butch refers to their expression; other people are butch, and only butch, where butch itself is their gender.

No, I don’t mean which labels you use, but rather what adjectives do you associate with your gender.

You say you’re confused about your gender, what part confuses you?

If you had to assign adjectives to your gender, which would those be?

They do not have to be gender qualities (masculine, feminine, etc)

I’m gonna have to disagree on presentation and orientation being unrelated to gender. Not only do those things influence each other, but one’s presentation (which includes more than how you dress) and orientation can be one’s gender. Think of people who use butch, femme, bear, etc as their genders, or people who are arogender.

This limited view of “gender, presentation and orientation are different” only work to explain cishet people that a gay man isn’t less of a man for liking men. But it cannot and should not stop us from seeing how for many queer people not being straight/cishet affects the way they relate (or not) with the binary system, that there are gay men that see their manhood as influenced by their gayness, thus different from binary straight manhood.

Not all nonbinary people identify as a gender other than the one they were assigned, though. Some identify with their AGAB, but in a way that’s outside the binary.

Sometimes, especially in the case of neopronouns, two set of pronouns share nominative form, but are distinguished from each other in their accusative form

For example: ze/hir vs ze/zir.

So, in those case, is to especify Which specific “ze” pronoun the person is talking about.

This also applies to “she” and “he” as pronoun sets like she/shim, she/sher or he/her are also a thing.

I avoid telling people my AGAB, because if I do they instantly want to classify me as a gender I’m not. It’s clear that many people, even those who are queer themselves, see and use “AFAB enby” to mean “cis woman-lite” and “AMAB enby” to mean “cis man-lite”.

I’m an aphorian, none of my genders are man or woman. I may have some genders that are similar or proximal to those two, but they are still distinct genders.

I don’t want to be associated with or read as a man nor as a woman; and when people ask for my agab, they’re mostly asking to know how to binarise me “correctly”

Gender diverse people have always associated our genders to things that are unrelated to gender as a way to shown a separation from the binary system.

This is different from queer-antagonistic meme you mentioned.

I would suggest you to read about queer gender dynamics (many of which make reference to animals) and xenogenders.

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