Too true, too true…

First they came to put tits on me, and I said hell yeah, because tits are dope

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Wow, the overton window shifted so far that we’re advocating for Nixon now? 😉

I thought that heatsink and fan was a spindle of CDs! I thought that was an interesting place to store them I hadn’t seen before…

Public key authentication is more secure than nothing, and is more convenient than shared secrets and symmetric encryption, but bit for bit the secret material necessary for public key cryptographic schemes to be secure is more data than is required for symmetric algorithms.

But more to your point, public key cryptography is basically a usability nightmare. In order to talk to anyone you need to first validate their key using an entirely out of band scheme you already trust, and if you don’t do that then all the end to end encryption in the world is theatre.

Of course I’m being hyperbolic, it’s the internet, but seriously there a lot of people feeling secure with public key systems that are either totally insecure, or could be insecure and they wouldn’t know, or are secure to some random bystander but insecure to people and organizations that are often included in people’s threat models.

Maybe I’m focusing on the wrong part but… a thousand dollars in damages? I know a lot of people in the states can’t rub two dimes together, but a thousand dollars is like… nothing. Especially for the government and not some guy working two jobs.

They’re claiming he should go to jail for 10 years for maybe causing a thousand dollars of damage to public property? I bet a single church could put together a bake sale one time and raise a thousand dollars.

Obviously if the tables were flipped, and some guy was out there breaking drinking fountains and cutting down trees in a park I’d be pissed… but this doesn’t even feel like an interesting lie!

Does he face growing questions? Does he? Because I have a strong feeling he’s facing questions in the same way that rocks might.

In the link you posted to the original question, it has a section on self hosting. That link takes you here where they say there are two servers.

Also, the documentation for Self Hosting basically starts by saying there are two servers.

I’m not sure how you self hosted it without hearing about it 😛

The really sad thing is that there’s almost something to this. There are practical everyday skills that would be useful in an emergency.

The problem is that these doinks have decided that being an asshole or misogynist has anything to do with felling a tree or making a fucking cottage. No one thinks fixing a car is Toxic Masculinity dipshits. You’re not Toxic because you can pour concrete, you’re Toxic because you put your hand up the waitress’s skirt, and that has nothing to do with God damn concrete.

You wanna be strong and supportive, how about being strong and supportive 365 days of the year when there isn’t a zombie apocalypse or natural disaster, rather than fantasizing about one day being able to wield your skills as leverage to coerce people into having to put up with your bullshit.

Get fucked, I don’t want to live in the compound you’ve decided you’re king of, I’d rather feed the local wolves.

Ah, the Relay Server is only half of the service! If I understand correctly from the documentation I skimmed, and my existing knowledge of streaming systems, the relay server is just there to handle relaying the video stream from one device to another one in the worst-case-scenario that they can’t reach each other to form a direct client-to-client connection.

So probably your relay server has never been used.

But that’s just for media, and just for bad network configurations. The actual part that coordinates who can see which devices, etc, and sets up the media connections, is the other server, which it sounds like you’re not running. So your services are currently still using the public server to find each other and initiate contact!

I don’t know, I haven’t hosted RustDesk myself, but it sounds like maybe you’re not actually using your self-hosted server for your clients? Because that message sounds like it’s entirely about “The Public Server” which is not your server. Right?

I’m sorry you had to find out this way, but yes, you were an extremely unfuckable kid. I hacked into their mailing lists, meeting minutes, and records, and you would not believe how much time they spent talking about you. One of them said he was feeling very desperate once, and had an opportunity with you, but before he could go through with it he realized he was better than this and it turned his life around and fixed his low self-esteem. The meeting minutes made a point of highlighting that when he was discussing his rock-bottom moment, that he may stoop so low as to assaulting you, the assembled people audibly said “eww” and gasped. When he said he couldn’t bring himself to do it, everyone applauded.

Sorry champ. But the good news is you grew out of it, like that classic kid’s story, The Unfuckable Duckling!

Right right right, sorry, I wasn’t trying to make the claim that this was “good for the economy” or something. All I was saying was that the money didn’t disappear, it was given to someone. And it wasn’t Iran. Well, maybe some of it was Iran… but most of it might as well have been printed out on a giant novelty check and handed to some rich dudes.

I know that people probably know this… but I still think it’s important to point out. When they say they spent $37.5 Billion on the Iran War, it’s easy to imagine a large pile of money burning. And that would be frustrating.

But that’s not what that means. The money didn’t go away, it was spent on things, and then those things went away. And when we say it was spent on things, what that means is that companies that make those things were paid to make things, they did make those things, and then those things blew up and were gone.

So it’s not so much that $37.5 Billion was spent on the war, as it is that $37.5 Billion of tax money was moved to the revenue line on the income statement of defense contractors. That’s where the money went, that’s who has it, not to the missiles and the dirt. And that’s somehow more frustrating, but it’s a lot less confusing…

This is how you know it’s a sickness. Wikipedia claims Trump’s worth to be around 6.5 and 7 billion dollars. Nuts, but not what this is about. 5 million dollars is about 0.07% of his published worth.

The median American has a net worth of $124,041 so if we use that same percent we get that the equivalent payout for an average American would be about $88. So, like, not nothing, but probably not something that’s worth stringing along for years and doing everything you can to get out of.

I know I’ve paid higher fines than that just to make problems go away because I didn’t want to deal with them, and I’m a serial procrastinator!

For me Jellyfin’s strength is that it can keep track of my wife’s place in her shows independent from mine, and also that the metadata and watched state and progress is synced between phone, tablet, and TV.

Great comment! Just wanted to pop in as a straight guy and second that it’s very helpful when a partner has things they know they like and can communicate what’s working, what’s not, and what could be better.

But… teen boys kinda suck, and honestly some guys never grow out of it. Remember that they’re nervous and uncertain too, and sometimes that fragile state can receive a suggestion as “telling them what to do”, and can trigger a pride response. It’s not pretty, but it’s not uncommon.

I’m not telling you to lie to them, but sometimes phrasing something as “mmm that’s good. More to the left. Yeah that” can feel more collaborative, like we’re playing on the same team, than simple “do it on the left” or something that sounds more like a cold command. That can sometimes be received as “you suck, you’re fucking this up, just do it right”.

Other potential avenues are “unh that feels so good, ooh let’s try X!” or “hmm… I wonder if X would be good!” to change directions or “okay… wow, you’re going to need to give that a minute” to have them stop something without it necessarily feeling like a stop stop. Obviously if you need a quick stop, you can just say stop.

Or if it fits the mood, even just asking “please go faster”, “please pinch my nipples”, etc can be fun, because it makes it a request he fulfills rather than an order he obeys.

In the end, he probably wants to be good at this, so communicating not just the problem, but emphasizing the success can also be important. “Slower, slower, slower… yes that, oh fuck that, now side to side, oh shit shit shit”

This not only corrects the bad behaviour, but rewards and reinforces the right thing when we get there. And again, it makes them feel like they’re doing well, like they’re giving you something you like, and that we’re aligned and working together on this project.

Oh and also that having been said don’t be too rigid either. You know some things that feel good for you on your own, but some things feel better when someone else does them. And some things take a bit to warm up. And some things are maybe a bit intense at the start, but just right towards the end, whereas some things are good early on and boring later. Hold firm boundaries on the things that are most important, but other than that give him a chance to try some stuff! If it doesn’t work, you can nudge, but it helps him feel like he’s also part of this and not just a sex robot.

Unless he’s into that… 😉

This is a absolutely true but I think it’s important to note given the context that there’s a wide gap between “not orgasming” and the pain OP was describing. 80% of women not orgasming from vaginal penetration alone does not equal 80% of women experience pain from sex instead.

Also, many women enjoy vaginal penetration as a fun and pleasurable experience, even if it’s not an experience that leads to orgasm on its own.

I’m sure the person I’m replying to knows this, but given that this post is about a confused and frustrated person, I don’t want them to see this 80% statistic and think the takeaway is “sex is bad for 80% of women”

You know what’s the worst? I read this headline and thought “oh yeah, I forgot they did that…”

What a fucked up timeline.

I’m pretty sure the DJs in my area record a bunch of inserts and bits ahead of time, those get edited and sliced up, and then put into the playlist at the correct positions. So I don’t think they’re sitting in the booth listening to the music live, and then talking in between, like they used to anymore. So that’s probably how they don’t get bored, they didn’t even hear the music last Friday when they laid down the week’s schedule.