I know that people probably know this… but I still think it’s important to point out. When they say they spent $37.5 Billion on the Iran War, it’s easy to imagine a large pile of money burning. And that would be frustrating.

But that’s not what that means. The money didn’t go away, it was spent on things, and then those things went away. And when we say it was spent on things, what that means is that companies that make those things were paid to make things, they did make those things, and then those things blew up and were gone.

So it’s not so much that $37.5 Billion was spent on the war, as it is that $37.5 Billion of tax money was moved to the revenue line on the income statement of defense contractors. That’s where the money went, that’s who has it, not to the missiles and the dirt. And that’s somehow more frustrating, but it’s a lot less confusing…

This is how you know it’s a sickness. Wikipedia claims Trump’s worth to be around 6.5 and 7 billion dollars. Nuts, but not what this is about. 5 million dollars is about 0.07% of his published worth.

The median American has a net worth of $124,041 so if we use that same percent we get that the equivalent payout for an average American would be about $88. So, like, not nothing, but probably not something that’s worth stringing along for years and doing everything you can to get out of.

I know I’ve paid higher fines than that just to make problems go away because I didn’t want to deal with them, and I’m a serial procrastinator!

For me Jellyfin’s strength is that it can keep track of my wife’s place in her shows independent from mine, and also that the metadata and watched state and progress is synced between phone, tablet, and TV.

Great comment! Just wanted to pop in as a straight guy and second that it’s very helpful when a partner has things they know they like and can communicate what’s working, what’s not, and what could be better.

But… teen boys kinda suck, and honestly some guys never grow out of it. Remember that they’re nervous and uncertain too, and sometimes that fragile state can receive a suggestion as “telling them what to do”, and can trigger a pride response. It’s not pretty, but it’s not uncommon.

I’m not telling you to lie to them, but sometimes phrasing something as “mmm that’s good. More to the left. Yeah that” can feel more collaborative, like we’re playing on the same team, than simple “do it on the left” or something that sounds more like a cold command. That can sometimes be received as “you suck, you’re fucking this up, just do it right”.

Other potential avenues are “unh that feels so good, ooh let’s try X!” or “hmm… I wonder if X would be good!” to change directions or “okay… wow, you’re going to need to give that a minute” to have them stop something without it necessarily feeling like a stop stop. Obviously if you need a quick stop, you can just say stop.

Or if it fits the mood, even just asking “please go faster”, “please pinch my nipples”, etc can be fun, because it makes it a request he fulfills rather than an order he obeys.

In the end, he probably wants to be good at this, so communicating not just the problem, but emphasizing the success can also be important. “Slower, slower, slower… yes that, oh fuck that, now side to side, oh shit shit shit”

This not only corrects the bad behaviour, but rewards and reinforces the right thing when we get there. And again, it makes them feel like they’re doing well, like they’re giving you something you like, and that we’re aligned and working together on this project.

Oh and also that having been said don’t be too rigid either. You know some things that feel good for you on your own, but some things feel better when someone else does them. And some things take a bit to warm up. And some things are maybe a bit intense at the start, but just right towards the end, whereas some things are good early on and boring later. Hold firm boundaries on the things that are most important, but other than that give him a chance to try some stuff! If it doesn’t work, you can nudge, but it helps him feel like he’s also part of this and not just a sex robot.

Unless he’s into that… 😉

This is a absolutely true but I think it’s important to note given the context that there’s a wide gap between “not orgasming” and the pain OP was describing. 80% of women not orgasming from vaginal penetration alone does not equal 80% of women experience pain from sex instead.

Also, many women enjoy vaginal penetration as a fun and pleasurable experience, even if it’s not an experience that leads to orgasm on its own.

I’m sure the person I’m replying to knows this, but given that this post is about a confused and frustrated person, I don’t want them to see this 80% statistic and think the takeaway is “sex is bad for 80% of women”

You know what’s the worst? I read this headline and thought “oh yeah, I forgot they did that…”

What a fucked up timeline.

I’m pretty sure the DJs in my area record a bunch of inserts and bits ahead of time, those get edited and sliced up, and then put into the playlist at the correct positions. So I don’t think they’re sitting in the booth listening to the music live, and then talking in between, like they used to anymore. So that’s probably how they don’t get bored, they didn’t even hear the music last Friday when they laid down the week’s schedule.

Kain is deified

Wait, you guys get relief? All I get is guilt that it wasn’t done within a reasonable timeframe or amount of effort in the first place…

They start learning to be a terror so soon… 🥲

I don’t think they were commenting on the lack of vehicle, I think it was more about the wheelchair in the sand and the surf. I’d assume it’s not exactly an ideal environment for a quick escape, but hey, I could be wrong, I’ve never tried it!

Possibly even as far as feedback, but yeah not really recursion.

Y’all are killing it! Good work.

Similar to others here, but slightly different: start with what you’re most excited about. There’ll be some shitty parts where you’re confused and frustrated, and if you feel like you’re just doing something you’re “supposed to do”, it can feel like a job for no pay. Pick something you have an inner thrill for, and maybe that fire can carry you through the dark.

I hope I’m not missing a joke, but if you’re curious in my accent (Ontario, Canada) it would basically always be “bi-sickle” and “moter-saikle”

Thank God I never got around to learning the International Phonetic Alphabet, or that might have been too easy and more useful!

Up to no good???

In related news Israel is causing some mischief in the West Bank, and the Germans were real troublemakers in the early 40s. Some reports go so far as to call them scoundrels!

We, as a species, have basically failed to build a single one quantum computer that does anything. So… that’s why they’re not everything yet. It’s because there are currently approximately zero.

And the few there kind of are are massive and requires liquid helium to cool them to ungodly cold temperatures. And even then they don’t do much, besides allow researchers to test stuff.

A protocol is a shared set of expectations that allow two or more things to communicate. It says “I will announce myself in this way” and “these are the responses you should expect to this request” and “here’s the list of all the things I know how to do”, and if we both follow the protocol, then we both understand what’s going to happen when we communicate.

Yeah, like other people covered, it’s unfortunate but also very important. It’s easy to tie “visible wifi networks” to “surprisingly precise location on globe” in many places, so the permission is named for the worst case scenario. Yes, the app might just be looking for a wifi, but it also could use that same information to locate you, so it’s the location permission. Sensible.

If they wanted to support just this one feature without requiring a location permission, they could maybe have an API that is “are you currently connected to this opaque token” API where the app can ask “am I connected” and is just told “yes” or “no”. That’s probably safe enough. And then I could register the app with my wifi without the app even knowing what my Wifi is, it just gets a unique but random string.

The same is true of bluetooth. If I can list nearby bluetooth, I can see that speaker and this TV and guess location. But there could be an API that hides that, there just isn’t currently

Huh, that’s some fun psychology. Donations make me feel guilty and uncomfortable 😛

Good to know someone enjoys them!