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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • so we can actually see what our friends do all day

    Friend: “So you get paid to spend the day periodically typing on your computers, surrounded by lots of large monitors, and several times a day you have video calls with people where you use so much jargon that the conversation is almost entirely divorced from the English language? You just finished an hour long meeting where I overheard every word from both sides of the conversation, and I have no idea what the hell either of you were talking about.”

    Me: “yes, that about sums it up”


  • The lemmy instance you choose (for example, you chose .ml) to join will have its own tone, flavor, rules, politics. You will find instances that are left, right, and center. Additionally you will find some that are VERY far-left or VERY far-right. If you are finding the tone for the lemmy community (equivalent of reddit subreddit) different that your position, it may be because its hosted and moderated on an instance with that particular bend.

    You may also experience some judgment from others because of the instance you are coming from as it can communicate some of your positional bias. Some users have chosen to relocate to other lemmy instances once they get an understanding of what ideas live where.

    All of that said, while lemmy and the fediverse has a much smaller userbase than Reddit, it is so much nicer here. My last post to reddit was over 2 years ago, and every post I hear about how bad it is getting over there confirms this is the better place here.





  • Sign up for a Pilates membership. Go regularly. Seek to make friends. Work on improving yourself in that class. The group will likely be mostly women. Now, your goal is NOT to find a mate in that class. Don’t be a creep. Embrace your inner warmth and genuinely and build friendships. Don’t fake this. Those women know other women that are looking for a mate, and would recommend you if you can be a genuine human being.



  • I’ve been in the Raspberry Pi world for awhile and had a taste of both the more limited selection of ARM based binaries, but also exposed to a bit of cross compiling. I’m sure I’ll run into things that are x86 specific, but that will also give me a chance to be exposed to the benefits and limits of x86 emulation on Apple Silicon.

    This brings me to cloud compute. For x86 binaries with no chance of substitution/cross compiling, I am planning on spinning up an x86 cloud instance that will likely accommodate a few more of my needs. I’m fully aware that there will be some applications that will simply have no accommodation, mitigation, or substitution on ARM and I’ll have to “go without”. I do have x86 a Linux desktop in regular use.

    Lastly, I also take advantage of ARM based cloud compute, as it is SUBSTANTIALLY cheaper than x86 cloud compute. Having a native workstation architecture matching the cloud compute architecture, I think, can possibly make live easier instead of harder.

    Worst comes to worst, I can press an old x86 laptop back into service running Linux.


  • While I run Linux on a desktop, I’ve always owned a Windows laptop. I decided last week that instead of ever running Windows 11, I’m going to buy a Macbook and dual boot it with Linux. Yes I know I can run Linux on any number of PC hardware laptops, there are occasionally windows only utilities needed to run firmware or some other proprieatry application. If I can know I can always fall back to OSX for system updates and running proprietary commercial software, I’ll know I never need to touch Windows 11.

    May when Microsoft realizes Windows 11 is Vista 2.0, Windows 12 may be great. With Linux and OSX, I don’t see myself coming back to Windows even then though.


  • My point is that just because you are living paycheck to paycheck doesn’t mean you can’t still save.

    For many, it does.

    It’s a decision that you have to make but it is doable because no matter how bad you’re situation is

    I think that is an extremely myopic view if you’re making that as a blanket statement. There are absolutely people that spend every last penny of their paycheck each week on absolute necessities and still go without other necessities. There are families that have some or all of the members skip meals because they don’t have enough money for food. There are people that can’t afford something as simple as basic underwear that isn’t worn out because they live with so few means. Some people have to skip taking life saving medicines because they simply can’t afford that. Suggesting folks in any of those type of situations aren’t deciding to cut back is a choice they are making is heartless.

    Even people that aren’t in as extreme situations as those, they may be buried under mountains of debt. Sure, saving a small emergency fund is good, but if they are paying down debt with all of their with the remaining amount of their paycheck, then the idea of saving for a house, car, child’s education, or even retirement are likely out of reach for them.

    there are other people getting by on 5%-10% less than you. By insisting that someone living paycheck to paycheck can’t also have savings is what’s doing a disservice to them.

    I truly hope you never have to live in real poverty. I also hope that you have the good sense to never say what you said here to someone in poverty. I’m not saying you would. I’m not suggesting you did. I’m not strawmanning you here.

    Are there people that aren’t in poverty simply living above their means and could cut 5%, 10%, or even more without negatively affecting their lives or health? Absolutely! I’m not going to sit here and claim that everyone exhausting every penny in their paycheck before getting their next one is spending it only on necessities. For those that are simply living above your means, you are giving good advice to them! I agree with you on that.


  • Of course having the savings made a difference when something major happened, that was the whole point.

    And that is the monumental difference between what you are describing I would just call “sticking to a budget” vs living paycheck to paycheck. Those living paycheck to paycheck don’t have that option to pull from savings because they have no savings. You did. What you were doing, by any definition I’ve run across up until yours, wasn’t living paycheck to paycheck.

    If you want to keep saying you’re living paycheck to paycheck, certainly you can. Its a free country, but you’re going to confuse people you talk to or misrepresent to them your situation. It may also be doing a disservice to those that are living paycheck to paycheck.