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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • I can respect that. I can tell you that you actually get very little attention at commencement. You’re in a sea of other people dressed exactly the same as you are. You’re all seated/standing/walking in a giant group. Unless you are being recognized for some outstanding achievement the most attention you get is when your name is mentioned when being handed a piece of paper. Even then its one name of hundreds or thousands being mentioned that day. Sure there’s hundreds or thousands of spectators, but none of them know who you are and are paying any attention to you. They’re there for their own person and you being there doesn’t even register with them. If you’re worried about attention, its nearly the opposite as you’re being anonymized in a group.

    I am positive the only people that remember my commencements for either of my degrees are me, my (now) wife, and my mom. One other note: at the time, I hadn’t counted on how important it was for my mom to see it. In retrospect I understand raising a child is years of hard work and a constant worry about if you’re raising your children right. Seeing them graduate would be a great measure that you did well as a parent.

    Still, there’s no requirement to do it and if thats not for you, thats just fine.










  • I had a half written post responding to what you wrote before I realized just how far off we are from one another in both ideology and tone. Clearly I’ve deleted all of it. I feel sorry for you, but worse, I feel bad knowing the damage your actions will have on your cause and that of my family. Still, I wish you good luck in life and hope you don’t end up regretting your choices of who you vote for.

    Feel free to respond to my final post to you if you like if you want to put a coda on this thread for others, but I’ll never see it.


  • Again, you’re stuck in binary short term thinking. I need to be more long term and strategic than you do.

    I have a trans family member. I am personally invested in their rights as a person be respected.

    And yes, transphobic DNC candidates losing makes the party less transphobic in the long run.

    We disagree completely. Up until 2 years ago I think we would agree that the DNC, for the most part, supported trans rights. When did we start seeing a handful of DNC candidates shifting on this position? When the candidates winning elections, the GOP, went transphobic. So the DNC losing more elections won’t make them less transphobic, it will make them more. We’ve seen this in real time in the last 2 years.

    (Please don’t put words in my mouth and pretend I’m saying that means it’s a net positive that Trump won. You’re better than that.)

    WTF. Its a good thing I never said anything of the sort. I don’t even think you need me in this conversation when you’re the one putting words in my mouth, and then criticizing me for it.

    And frankly, if both parties turn transphobe, this whole country can burn to the ground as far as I care.

    You are the one advocating for the GOP and voting for GOP candidates directly opposed to trans rights. You are directly hurting my trans sister. You are the person with the torch setting fire to the country.


  • I as a trans person need to vote against any transphobic Democrat.

    I don’t know your candidates, but if both candidates are transphobic in some way, can I safely assume that the GOP candidate is more transphobic or are you saying the DNC candidate is more transphobic than your GOP one?

    For me personally, a transphobic Democrat is far more dangerous to my safety and well being than any Republican. It’s more important to make sure at least one party isn’t transphobic than it is to win every election.

    Wait, let me follow your logic. Am I reading you right that you positing that voting for the GOP makes the DNC less transphobic?

    You’re going to vote for the GOP, which by every measure, is the more transphobic party, as a strategy to try to reduce transphobic legislation being written into law? That makes no sense to me whatsoever. If anything I think it would make the DNC more transphobic because they see they are losing elections to pro-transphobia GOP candidates and the DNC would think thats what voters want.