Thank you. I really hate this trend of a video when a few paragraphs would do it.

One time I saw NK Jemisen , author of the broken earth trilogy give a talk. Someone asked about climate change and she said something like “there’s only a small number of people responsible for most of this problem, and we know where they live”

The audience cheered and clapped. The guy moderating the talk got real flustered.

Not the building super, nor my friend when she came by with a drain snake that one time.

Or, to use an example that’s not trying so hard to be a pun: you go down to the local rec center to find a pickup game of basketball or whatever. No one’s paying anyone. You go, find a game, have a good time, and leave. Maybe see each other again. Maybe not. Is that sociopathy?

There’s a wide range of options between utterly repulsive and loved. That’s a huge excluded middle. Do you think people don’t fuck on the first date?

You deleted your other reply I already replied to, so I’m pasting what I wrote here:

You’re shifting the topic. You said,

No, I’m pretty sure that people who use each other for solely selfish purposes is a primary symptom of sociopathy

Note this claim isn’t about sex. It’s a broad claim that any circumstances where one party uses another for selfish purpose is sociopathy.

Since getting someone to fix a clogged toilet is using someone for selfish purposes, your claim would make that sociopathy. I think that’s absurd, and thus your claim is false.

I hate to break it to you but people who like to have sex with each other on a regular basis without exchanging money or other favors, they probably love each other but they’re so scared of the word love because for some reason in recent decades the word love has been become taboo.

Citations needed. You just made this up and I see no reason to take your word for it that people are scared of the word love, nor that love has become taboo. Furthermore, many people have regular sex without feeling love.

You’re taking your world view and beliefs and claiming they’re far more universal than they are.

You’re shifting the topic. You said,

No, I’m pretty sure that people who use each other for solely selfish purposes is a primary symptom of sociopathy

Note this claim isn’t about sex. It’s a broad claim that any circumstances where one party uses another for selfish purpose is sociopathy.

Since getting someone to fix a clogged toilet is using someone for selfish purposes, your claim would make that sociopathy. I think that’s absurd, and thus your claim is false.

Edit: person I replied to deleted their message, so I reposted this where they reposted.

I don’t let the problem get that bad in the first place.

On my computer, I close the browser end of day and all the tabs go away. On my phone, it auto archives tabs I haven’t looked at in a week. I close those periodically, but a few I use as off brand bookmarks (eg: a recipe I like)

Thus hiring someone to fix your plumbing or do your yard work is sociopathy?

Also two people can have mutually enjoyable sex without “love”.

You’ve got a weird take.

If you call it out before it happens, they call you alarmist. If you point it out afterwards, they’ve already normalized it

They’re not engaging with facts. That’s a whole other plane that doesn’t intersect. It’s just feelings and in-group.

When you point it out early, you’re disparaging the in-group so that must be rejected. When you point it out after… You’re still disparaging the in-group so that must be rejected.

That’s all there is to it.

Yeah some mods on some instances give real pearl clutching vibes.

Yeah, true. Too much jury nullification of any sort means you’re systems are failing. Not good for a society.

Ehh kind of. But, you know, nullification is when the laws say they’re guilty but the jury says no. Typically because the laws are unjust. But there’s an opposite where the laws might say they’re innocent, but the jury says guilty because the laws are also unjust.

What’s the opposite of jury nullification?

I was just telling a friend about my how cat was so annoyed today I wasn’t sitting at my usual desk. He was yelling and standing on it until I sat down. Now he’s snoozing in my lap, at the desk, as intended for this time of day.

I don’t like listening to podcasts but they provide the full transcript, which was a good read.

I feel like online spaces like lemmy over represent some behaviors.

Every Republican that leaves office, by whatever means, is good for the world.

I guess I’m lucky almost no one I know is trying to side hustle slop their way into money. I don’t think I would put up with that happily.

I wouldn’t mind ads on streaming media if they were limited to a few seconds at the start and end, and had some constraints (eg: no volume tricks to sound louder). Just a calm voice saying “This episode brought to you by WidgetCo. The best in Widgets. [logo] [url]” over a neutral color. That’d be fine. But the hunger for profit can never be sated, so it’s longer, more obvious ads more frequently forever. So they can all get fucked. I won’t watch at all.

This seems like an obvious improvement and I kind of want everyone who thought otherwise to be banned from working in decision making roles.