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I just meant when I was younger I would have killed for it. I never came across it unfortunately.

As a trans man, this is the guide I would have killed to have 10 years ago. I respectfully disagree with your take.

I don’t care how many times people explain to me that “kill all men” doesn’t actually mean kill all men. It still hurts. Ever since I transitioned, I’ve noticed the casual misandry thrown about everywhere like it’s not a big deal, but it’s a big deal to me. “All men are trash” includes me.

I’ve always had an issue with the idea that generalizations are okay. If “all men are trash” actually means “the patriarchy is trash”, just say that. I understand a lot of it as simply venting, but it’s almost never constructive or helpful, and it certainly isn’t fun to hear as a trans dude. Hell, part of the reason it took so long for me to accept myself as a man is because of this kind of rhetoric.

I hope it gets better, because it does feel very alienating whenever I encounter it. I want to be a part of queer spaces, but it’s hard when you feel hated.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but I thought the big risk with AI is its use as a disinfo tool. Skynet ain’t no where near close, but a complete post truth world is possible. It’s already bad now… Could you imagine AI generated recordings of crimes that are used as evidence against people? There are already scam callers that use recordings to make people think theyve kidnapped relatives.

I really feel like most people aren’t afraid of the right things when it comes to AI.

Yeah, my experience was essentially the same: self loathing turned outwards. I wonder just how many trans folk are former transphobes…

In defense of the tumblr gender… everything. I didn’t really know that trans people existed until the “discourse”. To be fair, I was a pretty sheltered kid, but like… I had no idea it was even an option. At the time I did think it was “stupid” and had a short anti-sjw phase spurred on by r/TumblrInAction, but at the end of the day I became aware that trans people existed mostly because of kids on the internet and their genders. So thanks tumblr.

I’m also in east Tennessee and have been brainstorming an exit plan in a worst case scenario. It sucks because I really do love it here.

As far as trans rights go, the US is a lot better than a lot of countries just because we have informed consent. I was actually looking into what countries are good for trans folks and the list is shorter than you’d think. Honestly, if we fight it out here, I think the US could become one of the best places to be trans in.

But yeah… With what’s happening with Vanderbilt, it’s probably a good idea get an exit plan at the very least

Huh. It actually runs fine for me on android and firefox. I did the thing though where you can download a website as an app:

https://support.mozilla.org/en-US/kb/use-web-apps-firefox-android

Let me know if that runs any better for you.

If they’re your best friend, they should be able to listen to you.

I used to have many shit opinions, and it took a lot of friends and a lot of conversations for me to change. It’s hard. But it’s thanks to them that I get to step into the best version of myself and be able to give back… Just know you are in a unique position to maybe get through to them, if they’re willing to listen.

That being said… I’m so sorry. I’ve lost close family to bigotry and it sucks. It’s the betrayal that’s the worst part. It’s like… I know you aren’t like this, so how did you get this way? Just sucks

UN peacekeepers famously did not get involved when the Serbs massacred Bosnian Muslims in Srebrenica in their own “safe zones”. I don’t know if there are counter examples since then that demonstrate peacekeepers actually keeping peace, but that was the worst situation imaginable, and they still didn’t get involved and just let it happen.

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-53346759

This is incredible. I hope they get married.

I see a lot of people quick to hate on PHP while not really knowing anything about it’s modern usage… but the thing I think of most is how people praise Lemmy for using Rust and diss Kbin for using PHP, but at the end of the day it’s HOW those tools are used that determines the quality of something. Language changes, but fundamentals stay the same, and in the end all anyone should care about is whether or not something works.

Programming language wars have always seemed a tad shallow to me.

I agree. But, for the sake of just exploring the thought process… IF the idea of trans women absolutely dominating cis women in sports were accurate (which does not seem to be the case), it would be something to discuss from a good faith perspective. Should we pivot to weight classes? Should there be a trans lady league? How do nonbinary folks fit in to this whole thing? Sports are inherently unfair, but that doesn’t mean there’s no room to talk about how we want sports to be.

It’s really exhausting when every aspect of your life as a trans person has become politicized, because there are differences between cis and trans people generally, and they are worth talking about. Maybe one day discussions can be had that aren’t simply thinly veiled transphobic talking points.

Even if there were a “biological advantage” the only reason people started to pretend to care about women’s sports is because it’s a way to alienate trans people. If there were a good faith discussion being had, it wouldnt be so infuriating.

I hope that something good comes from all this in the end.

From left to right, top to bottom: lesbian, nonbinary, trans, lgbt, pansexual, bisexual, and asexual pride flags.

I had to look up a couple myself actually haha

Yeah, it’s way more a problem with urban design in my opinion. In a lot of parts of the US, including where I’m at, a lot of cities are just… One road. Maybe two. You just continue to add stuff to the road and then become surprised when traffic happens and then it’s time to try (and fail) making more roads. It’s a city on a stick. Being a cyclist means risking your life to ride near the side of a street where there is no sidewalk and praying to God people can see you. And then every single commute is much longer than it needs to be.

I do not like it… but a car is the only reasonable option for cities designed so poorly.

Yeah, right now they offer 100 free searches and then 5 bucks a month capping out at 300 searches, along with other tiers. Would much prefer it to be more like a prepaid cellphone, and just buy searches… or maybe have the searches roll over to the next month lol. I’ll still try the free searches, but it would be nice to throw money at the thing instead of having the stress of yet another subscription service to remember to cancel if I stop using it.

I can completely get behind paying for a service if that means the service works and is better than all the other ones. I’ll at least try it out. Personally, I’d probably prefer if I could pay for a certain number of searches (like pay for a 1000 searches with 20 bucks) instead of the subscription model. I’m glad that there’s an ad-free search service though.

I had never heard of Kagi before; I’ll need to look into it.

I had a great time with 100devs. Leon really knows how to teach programming. He also has great networking and jobs advice.

Personally, I used both Odin Project and 100devs, and they’re both great. Might as well try both and see what works for you.