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The generics of 30mg Vyvanse in the morning and 10mg Ritalin in the afternoon (as needed)- usually around 9am and then 2pm. Seems to work pretty well for me!

I’ve struggled with insomnia for most of my life as well and had been prescribed a variety of medication types to try to treat it- ssris, antihistamines, z-drugs, atypical antipsychotics, etc… of those, the only one which absolutely guaranteed I’d sleep was Seroquel; it was a sledgehammer to the brain. It unfortunately was just overall far too effective and would sedate me the entire day and blended my dreams and reality in a very distressing way. It does help a lot if people do might be an option.

I eventually found relief through cannabis, and for over a decade, I was happily content vaping some flower for bed. Insurance obviously doesn’t cover that, and I’m unfortunately at a place in life with no job and income…sooo it was back to my psych to try to address my inability to sleep.

I spent a few days looking at medications that other people have had success with and found some that reported finding relief through Clonidine and other blood pressure medications. I brought the suggestion to my doctor who seemed open to it. I started with the standard immediate relief version. It did semi-reliably get me to sleep, but, as with many, I’d just end up waking up 4-5 hours later and would take another that sometimes would get me back to sleep. I then asked to try the extended release version, and so far it has allowed me to sleep the entirety of the night! Might be worth looking into if your heart is overall fine!

I go through phases with similar thoughts, and it very much depends how comfortable I am with life. An aspect of my mask (audhd) is channeling patience as a form of love…something I struggle to understand. Do I tell people close to me that I’d rather not listen to what they are saying, or do I stay patient and engaged to show them that I appreciate that they are in my life? It can be super draining, and I often need time to recharge. I recognize that I enjoy when people are engaged when I talk about my interests, so even if it’s sometimes a lie, I’ll stay engaged for the people I care about to return the favor.

Right? I feel like they think it’s a serious thing. My girlfriends and I use the term ironically, as I imagine most people do. I don’t really think any of us are too concerned if other people care if we look good, competent, whatever when we use it. Just something to giggle about.

Now if we want to go after gendered phrases - I think ‘man up’ should cause anyone being told that to stay far away from whoever is saying it.

Maybe you need to make the experience better? I saw that you have a water bottle, but I personally find drinking straight from a bottle or canteen less enjoyable. What has helped me was making it more a ‘ritual.’ I have a cute stainless steel canteen, and when I’m at home I also have a nice glass. Pouring water into a glass cup and drinking from there just feels nicer. I use a specialty glass that’s more designed for drinking coffee, and it makes the water feel so much smoother and overall more enjoyable.

Cleaning a little glass cup is also easier than washing a canteen or bottle.

It’s been many years since I used my phone for games, but I do remember suuuuper liking Kairosoft games! They were very cute, straightforward, and progression felt fun. They also didn’t have any micro transactions. They’re kind of simulation type games, but they are also very approachable for new players!

I was slightly critical of this post and tone, buuuut after checking all the recent posts…it is quite excessive.

I think the general post about the new instance is perfect, and maybe including a link to a nsfw specific ‘new communities’ sub that’s part of the new instance.

You might try changing the sort or filter to new or hot. Mine was defaulted to active I think, and no posts loaded until I adjusted sorting.

This is actually something I’ve learned more recently, especially with women, is pretty common. Reaching orgasm during sex often requires a lot of focus on feelings (physical, mental/emotional) and being present - ADHD brains can struggle staying present which then leads to less orgasm frequency during sex. I personally have had issues with this and have had partners with similar experiences - the best way I was able to help them was to be very vocal and engaging to keep them with me in the moment (talking in their ear, asking questions, etc) . One of my friends recently noticed that she’s enjoying intimacy far more now that’s she’s being treated for her ADHD.

I believe most apps can be used for free… to an extent. Just like mobile games they can very much be pay to win with many QoL features locked behind a subscription. I know you prefer web, so I’m mostly thinking of apps that also have a web interface. I’m also a woman and a similar age as you; I’ve given up on dating sites and apps to meet people. I do have friends that have had decent success with Bumble, Hinge (no web interface), and Boo. I’ve not looked into the full web-based ones in a long time, but even then I remember them being very limited without a subscription; I can’t imagine that’s changed. Best of luck girl 🩷 Online dating is a complete drain!

When I was growing up I sooo had this! It was a universe that had every character I liked from books, shows, movies, comics, etc. It lasted for well over a decade, but it became super draining on my mind as I got older since I couldn’t turn it off… And, most likely autism driven, I would often verbalize the sounds and actions playing in my mind. It took a lot of mental effort to finally end the story!

Yes yes! Thank you! When I was looking into Fidelity’s target funds I found ones labeled as mutual funds that sound super similar to what you described. I looked through the different industries and put some money towards those! I also just read into the difference between the two and will definitely be researching some ETF to invest into.

Kind of a similar-ish question. I recently moved my 401k from an old employer to my personal account. All my money is now sitting uninvested. As much as I’d love to hire someone to look over my accounts, I can’t really justify that at the moment. In the most basic way possible, can anyone suggest specific indexes, stocks, whatever the terminology is that I should or could invest my money into?

I actually still own the TV and researched the issue off and on for years. It’s just a design flaw and why they were offered during that Black Friday sale. I’ve gone through every menu and upgraded the fw; it’s just the way it is 🤷‍♀️

For the most random reason, Borderline Forever. For the longest time, I only watched YouTube on my TV- it was one of my end of night routines, and I had a few channels that I always kept up to date with. Now, I have to note that the TV I owned, for many years, was a super cheap 50" TV I bought from Walmart during Black Friday . It wasn’t great, but it was the first TV I bought myself when I started living on my own. One of the quirks of that TV was that the bezel actually extended over the screen and covered some of it. It wasn’t ever really an issue, but every now and again, I’d be aware of it. So, you can imagine my absolute surprise to learn that the blue border which was on all his thumbnails was actually part of his videos as well- a whole episode to highlight something I had been completely unaware of for hundreds of episodes. I honestly don’t remember much of the episode, but it was a big reason I ended up buying a new TV 🤭

Sounds really nice, and based on the reviews, it seems like a very cozy and supportive place! The UI and overall design though 😬 It probably grows on you over time. Thank you for sharing 🩷 Saving to look more into later!

I know you’ve said that you’ve asked her, and she’s stated she’s fine, but I think it matters how you ask. Sit down with her, mention the behaviors you’ve observed, explain how these things make you feel (I assume you’re worried about a friend), and just let her know you’re there for her if she ever wants to talk. Try not to make it too much about yourself, but be honest with your emotions… and try not to offer fixes for anything unless she asks. Myself and a lot of other women aren’t always open with men, even friends, because it can be exhausting dealing with their problem solver personalities; we normally know how to fix things already, but doesn’t mean they don’t weigh on our minds.

Okay, this is getting to be a bit much. I’m over 30 years old, have been seeing my PCP for the entirety of my life- he was the one who first diagnosed my autism and have me sent to be evaluated for ADHD. Due to insurance, I’ve had multiple psychs/therapists, but often see them for 3-5 years. I spend hours with these people talking about a variety of things, including eating habits. Never ONCE has any medical professional diagnosed or hinted that my relationship with food is related to an eating disorder. My anxiety around meal prepping was due to me training for competitive bodybuilding and having to eat 6 large meals throughout the day mentally wore me down. This mental hangup continued after I stopped training, and has less to do with the eating and more to do with the planning my schedule around eating. I very much dislike ANY form of structure which feels rigid or like I have to be conscious of times/date. I have no problems with the food itself, I have no problems controlling my intake of food, and my only issues stem from the scheduling and routine of eating.

My understanding of binge eating when it comes to eating disorders is that people will eat when they don’t want to, are already full, eat till they are sick, feel negative about binging, eating fast for hours, etc - this isn’t what I experience. I do get hungry and I eat till I’m satisfied. I would not classify the way I eat in this manner as binging - it doesn’t bother me, I don’t eat myself sick, and I can stop when I want.

I’m honestly going to go by the fact that not a single time in my life has it been brought up by my doctors, psychs, or therapists - some of whom I’ve been seeing for decades. I’m sure you’re incredibly qualified to make these types of diagnoses based off of a few sentences from someone on a message board, but please use your time for your actual patients.