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This is actually something I’ve learned more recently, especially with women, is pretty common. Reaching orgasm during sex often requires a lot of focus on feelings (physical, mental/emotional) and being present - ADHD brains can struggle staying present which then leads to less orgasm frequency during sex. I personally have had issues with this and have had partners with similar experiences - the best way I was able to help them was to be very vocal and engaging to keep them with me in the moment (talking in their ear, asking questions, etc) . One of my friends recently noticed that she’s enjoying intimacy far more now that’s she’s being treated for her ADHD.

I believe most apps can be used for free… to an extent. Just like mobile games they can very much be pay to win with many QoL features locked behind a subscription. I know you prefer web, so I’m mostly thinking of apps that also have a web interface. I’m also a woman and a similar age as you; I’ve given up on dating sites and apps to meet people. I do have friends that have had decent success with Bumble, Hinge (no web interface), and Boo. I’ve not looked into the full web-based ones in a long time, but even then I remember them being very limited without a subscription; I can’t imagine that’s changed. Best of luck girl 🩷 Online dating is a complete drain!

When I was growing up I sooo had this! It was a universe that had every character I liked from books, shows, movies, comics, etc. It lasted for well over a decade, but it became super draining on my mind as I got older since I couldn’t turn it off… And, most likely autism driven, I would often verbalize the sounds and actions playing in my mind. It took a lot of mental effort to finally end the story!

Yes yes! Thank you! When I was looking into Fidelity’s target funds I found ones labeled as mutual funds that sound super similar to what you described. I looked through the different industries and put some money towards those! I also just read into the difference between the two and will definitely be researching some ETF to invest into.

Kind of a similar-ish question. I recently moved my 401k from an old employer to my personal account. All my money is now sitting uninvested. As much as I’d love to hire someone to look over my accounts, I can’t really justify that at the moment. In the most basic way possible, can anyone suggest specific indexes, stocks, whatever the terminology is that I should or could invest my money into?

I actually still own the TV and researched the issue off and on for years. It’s just a design flaw and why they were offered during that Black Friday sale. I’ve gone through every menu and upgraded the fw; it’s just the way it is 🤷‍♀️

For the most random reason, Borderline Forever. For the longest time, I only watched YouTube on my TV- it was one of my end of night routines, and I had a few channels that I always kept up to date with. Now, I have to note that the TV I owned, for many years, was a super cheap 50" TV I bought from Walmart during Black Friday . It wasn’t great, but it was the first TV I bought myself when I started living on my own. One of the quirks of that TV was that the bezel actually extended over the screen and covered some of it. It wasn’t ever really an issue, but every now and again, I’d be aware of it. So, you can imagine my absolute surprise to learn that the blue border which was on all his thumbnails was actually part of his videos as well- a whole episode to highlight something I had been completely unaware of for hundreds of episodes. I honestly don’t remember much of the episode, but it was a big reason I ended up buying a new TV 🤭

Sounds really nice, and based on the reviews, it seems like a very cozy and supportive place! The UI and overall design though 😬 It probably grows on you over time. Thank you for sharing 🩷 Saving to look more into later!

I know you’ve said that you’ve asked her, and she’s stated she’s fine, but I think it matters how you ask. Sit down with her, mention the behaviors you’ve observed, explain how these things make you feel (I assume you’re worried about a friend), and just let her know you’re there for her if she ever wants to talk. Try not to make it too much about yourself, but be honest with your emotions… and try not to offer fixes for anything unless she asks. Myself and a lot of other women aren’t always open with men, even friends, because it can be exhausting dealing with their problem solver personalities; we normally know how to fix things already, but doesn’t mean they don’t weigh on our minds.

Okay, this is getting to be a bit much. I’m over 30 years old, have been seeing my PCP for the entirety of my life- he was the one who first diagnosed my autism and have me sent to be evaluated for ADHD. Due to insurance, I’ve had multiple psychs/therapists, but often see them for 3-5 years. I spend hours with these people talking about a variety of things, including eating habits. Never ONCE has any medical professional diagnosed or hinted that my relationship with food is related to an eating disorder. My anxiety around meal prepping was due to me training for competitive bodybuilding and having to eat 6 large meals throughout the day mentally wore me down. This mental hangup continued after I stopped training, and has less to do with the eating and more to do with the planning my schedule around eating. I very much dislike ANY form of structure which feels rigid or like I have to be conscious of times/date. I have no problems with the food itself, I have no problems controlling my intake of food, and my only issues stem from the scheduling and routine of eating.

My understanding of binge eating when it comes to eating disorders is that people will eat when they don’t want to, are already full, eat till they are sick, feel negative about binging, eating fast for hours, etc - this isn’t what I experience. I do get hungry and I eat till I’m satisfied. I would not classify the way I eat in this manner as binging - it doesn’t bother me, I don’t eat myself sick, and I can stop when I want.

I’m honestly going to go by the fact that not a single time in my life has it been brought up by my doctors, psychs, or therapists - some of whom I’ve been seeing for decades. I’m sure you’re incredibly qualified to make these types of diagnoses based off of a few sentences from someone on a message board, but please use your time for your actual patients.

You’re entirely wrong about that, and I think that’s the entire point of this post. Eating does not repulse or disgust me. I have zero anxiety that xyz food is going to make me gain/lose weight. The idea here is that our brains absolutely do not easily create a routine around food. Let’s say it’s 10am and I’m starting to get hungry- I’ll tell myself “okay, lunch in the next hour or two!” I briefly go back to whatever I was doing, look at the clock again, and it’s 6pm.

True… but it’s not really intentional or desired for some of us. Like, I WANT to put on weight (especially fat), but unless I set timers or am incredibly conscious that I need to eat, time just zips by, and I end up eating as described in the post. When I super focus on it (meal prep, shakes, etc), it starts to become a major point of anxiety in my life, and my relationship with food starts to get kind of toxic. I’m alive, healthy, and all that, but this kind of thing is very different than intentional fasting or dieting.

Soo it’s nowhere near the same- but in FFXIV I once spent weeks after an expansion crafting/gathering to make money to buy a large housing plot. By the end of it I had around ~600million (an absurd amount). Unfortunately my luck just wasn’t here and I lost every lottery I entered. Now- I probably have like 5 million. Where did it all go? To other players. I’d just buy people things. Someone in chat said they really wanted this or that- I’d buy it. People wanted a small/medium plot and didn’t have the money? I’d give them the gil. I found literally no reason to have so much gil just for the sake of having it, and I love seeing people get excited. I’d put together little welcome packages with expensive mounts, minions, clothes, etc and gift them to new players. I kind of started doing this in real life to, just to a lesser degree as a stranger handing you a gift can be a bit weird. I’d like to imagine, with infinite wealth, I’d do the same thing to a larger scale- really find ways to improve and bring joy to the lives of others. I’d obviously spoil myself with things, but I imagine I’d spend most of it on other people.

There’s so many today 🤭

I think these types of games would be a great place to start; maybe even something like Inscryption since it shows how deep games can be even when they appear to start off fairly simple.

I have a fast rate of friendship and comfort decay. If I can interact with my friends regularly throughout the week I feel like my life absolutely glows, but if people start canceling or life just gets too busy, the moments I do get to spend with them starts feeling forced and awkward. Some people seem to thrive interacting with their friends occasionally or once every week or two, but I turtle shell super fast once regularly interactions stop.

You’ll find that in queer culture, there’s not just top/bottom but a wide spectrum to define or describe preferences; I’m sure this all also applies to the BDSM world as well. There’s a variety of tops and bottoms and preferences like Bambi lesbians who don’t want sexual dynamics beyond cuddling and kissing.

The interview process is what is causing me the most anxiety right now. Lost my job at the end of June, and I KNOW I need to be looking harder, but I’m just dreading the whole interview process. I’ve been procrastinating like crazy…I just don’t want to relearn a whole culture of a new team; it’s so mentally draining. 12 years somewhere and the idea that I have to start all over again…😭