third party voters are not working to “split the vote”, they are voting for their preferred candidate.

Unfortunately with the electoral college, it is splitting the vote. Without ranked choose voting, voting for anyone other than a D or an R is literally throwing your vote away.

One thing I’d advise looking into would be Autism as well.

I did/do experience a lot of what you are describing, and have been misdiagnosed with a few things, turns out I’m autistic. It presents very much like inattentive ADHD in me, so I was pursuing th ADHD diagnosis for a long time.

It took me a couple years to figure it out, but yeah, I’m autistic.

This video helped me quite a bit in understanding the difference.

I’m not saying you have Autism, but it’s worth considering!