So the game was abandoned? That’s too bad! I was considering buying it once it got more features (since it was still in early access)but wasn’t 100% sure yet. I ended up getting Foundry at the time but still wanted to try Techtonica at some point.

If I need to get up at 5AM I just set my alarm and as soon as the alarm goes off I hop out of bed, to force myself to actually get up before I get the chance to start thinking about it (and postponing the getting up part).

As for what I do in the evening: if getting up at 5AM every day is my goal I just start by setting my alarm at 5, and aim to go to bed earlier. If I did go to bed late the night before, I would still set my alarm at 5 and just be tired the next day. Because the next day I’ll feel so tired I’ll automatically end up going to bed earlier. So it works itself out. So if I really wanted or needed to get up at 5AM every day I’d just do it even if I didn’t sleep enough hours the night before. Once I’m in a routine I don’t even need to set my alarm. I’ll just automatically wake up at that hour.

Honestly, it can be very difficult for others to get a good idea of what someone with ADHD goes through on a day to day basis. That you felt alone while trying to get the help you needed really sucks because you were on your own fighting that battle at just 13 years old. That really sucks. I don’t know the full story, but could it be that your mum relied on the doctor’s advice and knowledge and thought they would have more insight in this kind of stuff? I mean, I personally knew I had ADHD before I was diagnosed. When I first went to get diagnosed they said my symptoms weren’t bad enough at the time to be diagnosed with it. It was really annoying because I knew I had it. A few years later I went somewhere else (a place where they specialised in it) and finally got diagnosed.

It’s quite frustrating but I’ve had enough experiences that made it clear that I was more knowledgeable about the subject than a doctor or therapist. I even sometimes had to explain how it worked to them. So keeping that in mind, and knowing many people expect a doctor or therapist to be the expert on these subjects, I think it’s understandable that even your mother believed the doctor. (My experience taught me that it’s never a bad thing to do your own research (like you did) and fight to get the help you need. Sometimes that is the only way to get the help you need. But not everyone knows this).

Now that she knows she was wrong she seems to feel bad that she didn’t listen to you all those years ago and wants to make up for it. I understand your frustration, but the fact that she’s doing this means she is admitting to her mistakes and wants to be there for you NOW.

I used to use You Need A Budget and was looking for an open source alternative. I’ve been using Actual since last year and I really like it so far. It has all the features I’d been looking for and is free and open source. It seems to fit your list of requirements as well! I’d highly recommend it!

Almost like a calzone?

And they say knives and tools in the kitchen are dangerous. No, it’s the food!

Oh the uncooked ones! Actually, I vaguely recall doing the same thing once. I also tend to cut my hands on plastic food packaging.

And I was once peeling a boiled egg and suddenly the egg turned ‘pink’. Cut myself on the egg shell.

Wait, how?

And ‘lmao’ and ‘rofl’.

It’s my first time seeing comments like on your previous post on Lemmy. I share your views on skin colour/looks and I think every human being is equal. We all look different and unique and we should embrace that uniqueness.

I totally see where you’re coming from and I’m wondering if there’s some misunderstanding going on. You didn’t even mention America in that post yet others judge you because you’re “obviously an outsider”. I feel like there might be two conversations going on here that don’t completely align here.

I think perhaps these people are referring to the need to put people in boxes just because many minorities are suppressed and need to be heard. So basically if you’re part of a minority and you are being mistreated you naturally feel more comfortable with other people in a similar situation and thus you’re automatically putting yourself in that box (I don’t mean voluntarily). And in order for that minority to be heard they need to stand up for that minority/group of people.

I can see why this comes across as racist and I can totally see where you’re coming from (like I said, I share the same views about equality and your looks should not matter at all).

But this leaves me with the question whether these people just didn’t understand where you were coming from? They are kind of turning you into the bad guy when in my eyes you definitely aren’t.

I use Actual. How it works is very similar to YNAB (you budget the money you currently have) but it’s open source and privacy focused. I started using it a few months ago and I really like it so far!

6 hours and 23 minutes. On my phone, that is. I spent a couple of hours (probably around 4 to 5?) at my PC earlier today as well.

Toilet paper 🧻 Very, very useful.

Meds. Everyone reacts to different meds differently so not all ADHD meds have the same (positive) effect for everyone. For me, Concerta works super well, but it might be something else for others.

Aside from meds, a routine works wonders. A routine with all of the day to day activities happening in the same order at roughly the same time (such as taking meds, doing the dishes, cooking, walking and feeding the dog, going to bed/getting up in the morning, etc). Or on the same day every week (such as cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, etc). If I need to add something to my routine it takes some time to adjust, so I preferably only add one thing at a time and other activities within my routine may get a bit chaotic for a while but as long as I stick to it it’ll eventually become part of my routine.

The only downside to this is: if anything is different from my usual routine (it could be something as simple as the order of activities changing) it might mess up the routine for the rest of the day…

I prefer Lemmy, but unfortunately it is missing a lot of the communities I liked on Reddit, and there doesn’t seem to be as much content. When I’m looking for information on a specific topic I’ll still check out Reddit but I haven’t logged in since the Reddit drama and don’t plan to. I do hope Lemmy gets bigger, though.

I mean, I suppose you could. It just wouldn’t be as comfy and you might get some strange looks from other people here and there. XD

I love the spring and summer. I have fibromyalgia and the pain and fatigue is much better during the warmer months. I like the sunny weather as it cheers me up. The people outside make me feel like I’m on a holiday even when I’m not. It’s the time of the year I feel the most motivated to do anything and I actually have the energy to do it.

Aside from that, the summer heat doesn’t bother me that much. It’s much better than the freezing cold for me. Unless it’s almost 40°C, but I don’t think anyone likes these high temperatures.

I agree with you about the mosquitoes, though.

I’d love to see more healthy food, fitness, weight loss and healthy lifestyle-related communities! Also, I don’t think there’s a community for ‘petite fitness’? Would love to see that as well.