Yeah, I keep in touch. I experienced some deprivation as a kid, so as an adult, I pursue interests with glee. Maybe even to my detriment, but overall I think it’s a positive thing to rush toward interesting things.

The flip side is, really draining sometimes, and I push it away in favour of gratification. Could also be a sign of an imbalance in life, if recovering from work-based responsibility doesn’t happen well enough, and it intereferes with personal life responsibilites.

Just bought a wollen cape for those crispy autumn mornings. It’s nice to lounge around in, but maybe I’ll summon the courage to take it out too.

Kinda feels like a trenchcoat in function, but lighter and with a hood to boot.

If you care about fashion, everything will go out of style every now and then. If you like cargo shorts, wear them. There’s no reason to cater to someone elses gatekeeping. If you think that they don’t fit your look, then that’s a completely different issue.

They are very handy too in all the right ways.

Driving people out because of their past isn’t fruitful. Someone used to have bigoted views but something made them change their mind, and they pushed hard enough to reform their life? Sounds like they wanted it, and are probably a changed person.

I know a few people like this. They help others leave similar situations. Great people doing important work.

I guess when I ran into Aesop Rock, and got absolutely infatuated? I don’t do a lot of rap, so his stuff hitting so damn hard was a surprise.

I remember a few of the other times. Mostly it has taken the right moment, the right mindset and the right artist. A dark autumn evening and a walk in a park for Dark Sanctuary, falling asleep to SunnO))) and waking up to it was a mindblowing experience.

Carpenter Bruts album Trilogy opened up electronic music for me, and Crypt of the Necrodancers soundtrack cemented it.

Oh wow, it’s still going? I really thought the game got shut down! It’s a cool shooter, definitely fun to mess around in.

Social work and sex ed with a smidgen of research.

Tinder is very superficial and a hard platform to find people on. The gender ratio is very skewed and it turns against itself, since the competition for attention is so hard. This benefits the app though, since it makes peopel waste money on superlikes and whatnot - so they won’t ever try to fix it.

You definitely aren’t too old to date around and have fun meeting people. Mingling around in real life might be easier, since you don’t have to rely on a single picture and a few lines of text to impress someone.

“Dude just talking to people, everyone can do that”.

An absolute wannabe authoritarian brute. The institution pushing back against outrage could (and probably already has) lead to a massive Streisand effect.

They have other resources too, about gender identity, finding yourself and finding a community. Do you have an idea on what would make you feel good? If everything were possible, what would you wish to change in your day-to-day life, so that it would feel more comfortable, more like you?

Speaking to different people about how they went through similar life situations could help you maybe find a way for you to explore yourself. Maybe there are safe spaces near where you live, that you could pop in to and talk with some people? Like a LGBTQ-friendly community night or something? Or maybe even using lemmy spaces, reddit or other online spaces to find people who could talk with you about their own processes?

I’m cishet, so my experience will be different, but if it’ll help, I can share it.

I guess take it slowly and explore how self expression makes you feel? There might be a newfound euphoria in trying all the things at the same time, but I’m worried that this might lead to unsafe things, or maybe unsafe people.

Finding yourself is a marathon that can take a whole lifetimes worh of experiences, so take your time. I would suggest finding stuff to read, watch and listen to, that will give you more context to your experiences, maybe even new people to talk to?

I can try to dig up more resources, but I’ll starg with a local one: https://en.seta.fi/lgbti-rights-in-finland-seta/materials/ Seta is a Finnish ngo that works with LGBTQ members of society, providing support, resources and aims to further their position through political influence.

After reading what you’ve written, I want to agree with “you are cis and have aesthetic choices”? I mean that you can identify as masculine, but it’s fine to prefer they/them on certain days and like nail polish and bracelets. Masculity shouldn’t be thought of as being forced to be a certain way or act a certain way to qualify. Sure, some things are more associated wih masculinity, but in the end, you decide how you express yourself, and no-one else. Gender expression should be open to individual choice, same as how you define your gender identity.

This sounds a little like Justine my De Sade. A bleak tale about ever escalating horrible events.

A historic description of the life of Finnish executioners. Pretty dope stuff!

Hey, cool stuff! Thanks for the review! I’d love reviews of mid-priced, medium box games that scale well with players, or games that support 6+ players and are not drafting or social deduction.

The huge box games filled with plastic figures are a chore to drag to a game night and are hard to table.

An old ipad Air. Good size, great for comics and pdf-books.

It’s starting to run a little slow and there isn’t a lot of storage space on it. Once it goes kaput, another tablet is probably what I’m picking up. Hate the Apple ecosystem.