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Cake day: June 15th, 2023

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  • Everything bad people said about web apps 20+ years ago has proved true.

    It’s like, great, now we have consistent cross-platform software. But it’s all bloated, slow, and only “consistent” with itself (if even). The world raced to the bottom, and here we are. Everything is bound to lowest-common-denominator tech. Everything has all the disadvantages of client-server architecture even when it all runs (or should run) locally.

    It is completely fucking insane how long I have to wait for lists to populate with data that could already be in memory.

    But at least we’re not stuck with Windows-only admin consoles anymore, so that’s nice.

    All the advances in hardware performance have been used to make it faster (more to the point, “cheaper”) to develop software, not faster to run it.




  • You’ll think I’m crazy, and you’re not wrong, but: sneakernet.

    Every time I run the numbers on cloud providers, I’m stuck with one conclusion: shit’s expensive. Way more expensive than the cost of a few hard drives when calculated over the life expectancy of those drives.

    So I use hard drives. I periodically copy everything to external, encrypted drives. Then I put those drives in a safe place off-site.

    On top of that, I run much leaner and more frequent backups of more dynamic and important data. I offload those smaller backups to cloud services. Over the years I’ve picked up a number of lifetime cloud storage subscriptions from not-too-shady companies, mostly from Black Friday sales. I’ve already gotten my money’s worth out of most of them and it doesn’t look like they’re going to fold anytime soon. There are a lot of shady companies out there so you should be skeptical when you see “lifetime” sales, but every now and then a legit deal pops up.

    I will also confess that a lot of my data is not truly backed up at all. If it’s something I could realistically recreate or redownload, I don’t bother spending much of my own time and money backing it up unless it’s, like, really really important to me. Yes, it will be a pain in the ass when shit eventually hits the fan. It’s a calculated risk.

    I am watching this thread with great interest, hoping to be swayed into something more modern and robust.



  • (and has E2EE)

    Normally my policy is “E2EE or GTFO”, but the concept only applies to a subset of Discord use cases. A good Discord alternative needs to handle the same variety of use cases as Discord.

    E2EE for a public forum makes no sense. Lemmy doesn’t have E2EE either, obviously. That’s an absurd idea.

    Discord is mostly used for public or semi-public spaces. I’m in Discord servers for some of my favorite games and game studios, for example. The only barrier to entry is clicking a link, which is usually publicly advertised. I’m also in some semi-public Discords that are locked behind a membership of some sort (like Patreon), but those are still full of an arbitrary number of people I do not know. It’s not a private space. E2EE would be counterproductive.

    That said, I have a few friends who habitually DM me on Discord, and I’m like “dude, I know you have Signal. Use it FFS”. One thing I like about Lemmy is that when you go to send a DM, it literally warns you against using it for DMs:

    Warning: Private messages in Lemmy are not secure. Please create an account on Element.io for secure messaging.


  • The problem is that there are very few people who are familiar enough with both Discord and Matrix to give a meaningful answer.

    Personally, I use both, but for completely different use cases. I do not understand how one could be used as a substitute for the other. Perhaps I’m missing something, or perhaps everyone who thinks Matrix is a good substitute for Discord just don’t use Discord very much.

    If you have a small group of friends who occasionally hang out in chat, sure, Matrix is fine. If you’re in dozens of Discord servers, each with dozens (or even hundreds) of channels, and hundreds or thousands of users, no. At least, not with Element. Perhaps there’s a better client out there for that?




  • Yeah. I’ve been using Macs since System 6 and while I’ve often disagreed with Apple’s direction, this is the first one that feels downright incompetent, in much the same way as Microsoft’s Vista and Windows 8 designs were.

    There’s no consistency between how things look and how they behave. There is useless clutter everywhere. Legibility of text is an afterthought. It’s like they forgot the distinction between graphic design and UI design.

    But it looks pretty at a glance, so…great…



  • A poly group (also known as a polycule) is a network of polyamorous people’s relationships. Polyamory, in case you’re unaware, is the practice of having multiple romantic or sexual partners at the same time, in contrast to monogamy.

    If you were polyamorous and wanted to graph out your relationships, you could do it a few different ways. For example:

    • Just you and your partners. If any of your partners are also in relationships with each other, you’d draw lines between them as well.

    • Extend an extra level and include all of your partners’ partners (known as metamours), again connecting any pair on the graph who are partners.

    • Extend that further and include all of your partners’ partners’ partners (no specific term for this as far as I know). This would likely include people you don’t personally know, and it would be difficult to build a complete graph of all their relationships.

    Etc.





  • Share pictures of yourself, or your children, only with actual friends and not for the whole world to find

    Good advice but let’s be real: in practice, this means having no social media profile, and even that is a half-measure.

    Even if I carefully curate my friends list (most people don’t), and share my photos with only my inner circle (most people won’t), I have no control over what my friends do. If my cousin posts a photo he took at Thanksgiving, it’s probably going to be visible to all his friends, and even friends-of-friends. That’s thousands of people I’ve never met and there’s not much I can do about it.

    There are pictures of me on Facebook, and I do not use Facebook. The social cost of getting on everyone’s ass about taking/posting pictures with me is too high even for a grumpy old fart like me. At least I’m not tagged (since I don’t have a profile), so it’s not neatly pre-sorted for potential attackers. But that’s at best security through obscurity, and it isn’t even very obscure. Anyone targeting me specifically would have no trouble finding pictures of me, and none of that is realistically within my control.

    It’s more like “beater bike security”. Any bike lock can be thwarted by a dedicated thief, so the best strategy is simply to be a less attractive target than the other bikes around.

    This is a systemic problem. It goes beyond individual choices and even beyond social media policies.