At its core, my problem is that I tend to get angry and frustrated with myself, instead of being kind to myself. Self-kindness is easier said than done.

Pomodoro is just a structure that helps me to be kind to myself. Feel free to adapt it to your own needs, as long as it helps you to be kind to yourself and “reset” from distractions.

The Pomodoro method works for me. Set a timer for 25 minutes. Decide the task (or task list) you’re going to do. Make it as specific as possible, for example “write 10 ideas of things to do at work next year and rate them by how desirable and achievable they are”. Then start the timer and do the task. When the timer goes off, you have to take a 5 minute break. Whether you’ve been productove or distracted, doesn’t matter. You HAVE to take a break. Drink something, go to the toilet, reply to a message whatever. Timer goes off after 5 minutes of break time. You’ve got a fresh start to try again.

For me, the first pomodoro is often wasted, sometimes even the first 2, but the forced break (I only have 25 minutes to a “deadline”) and mental reset afterwards help to create that setting to be productive.

I think Plato said philosophers like him should have power. Philosopher-Kings.

More of a Lenin vibe

Thank you for sharing your findings and the great explanation! I recognize number 2 a lot… I will try to stop engaging with the anxiety.

Good point. I guess you’re right, there are no flattering roles. But each of those options you list would have been less on top of existing prejudices.

Making her the (non-technical) project manager whose only contribution is “how many story points is that?”, who’s then silenced because “this is important!”, confirms the typical prejudices about women in tech:

• no technical expertise
• is not in charge
• does not have anything to say that is worth listening to in times of crisis

Especially being talked over. This matches many women’s experiences in men-dominated environments to a T.

I’d much rather the technically competent, important but socially weird engineer (Jared) be the woman, or the incompetent boss, who’s in charge and calls the shots. Even having no women in the skit would be better than this Cindy role.

Or, weird idea I know, multiple people with different roles being women. 🙄

We all get frustrated with scrum at times, but not all of us use TTS to make a casually sexist skit about it.

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Unlike most houses, in mine the Fox won’t change the default browser.

I feel you. What helped me was learning about growth mindset and fixed mindset. It doesn’t magically cure it, but it does help to know why you feel that way and how untrue that reason is.

I didn’t read the whole book of course, but there’s tons of exec summaries and short talks on it that can help to understand it.

If you’re worried, you can come up with a plan B now. It tends to be easier to think “what if …?” before anything has happened and then write that in the reminder than to do this kind of thinking when you’re in panic mode and find out that things aren’t going well.

As much as is reasonable, try to expect them. Put a task in 2 weeks describing what to do if there have been no replies yet. Expand your range of options. Search farther, find a different kind of handiman companies to mail, find someone who can give feedback on your resume, or if necessary, consider different kinds of jobs.

I would not be a part of this community if this mind of planning always went well in my life. But in general, planning these kinds of things in advance so I don’t have to:

• notice them in the moment
• make the plan in the moment

Helps me. Do the work now so you can simply follow reminders and instructions for plan B.

I feel you. What helps me, is to organize before starting (as much as I dread organizing). Write down what needs to be done when, and make sure you have at least a reminder to kickstart plan B scheduled.

I extensively use to-do lists (love the Todoist app) and will put in tasks like (for a home improvement example)

• mail at least 5 companies asking to do X (tomorrow)
• in 2 weeks: make sure you have followed up with 1 of them, else read 2 tutorials and get tools to do X myself

For the boring (but non-waiting) tasks like making the schedule, reading or just doing boring stuff at work, I like to use pomodoro: Set a timer, try to do focused work for 25 minutes. When the timer goes off, you HAVE TO take a break and enjoy yourself for 5 minutes (set a timer again), whether you got any work done or not. Repeat. There’s apps and sites that help make this smooth.

Usually the first pomodoro is wasted but in the second or third, I get so much work done, and feel better because of the mandatory breaks, that it is usually worth it

Most of (what we call) Linux OSes are formally GNU/Linux. GnuCash is as close as it gets to “made for Linux”. If you don’t want an accounting-specific application, but just generic spreadsheets, check out LibreOffice.

I highly recommend GnuCash for accounting though: a fellow board member cleaned up an org’s accounting by putting it all in GnuCash, where it was a bunch of error-prone Excel sheets before. That really made it easier to keep track and to do it right.

A quick Google shows Quickbooks to be cloud-based accounting software. For FOSS accounting, GnuCash exists so you could try that (it can also run on Windows and macOS). However, it’s unlikely to have feature parity so if you like the added convenience that Quickbooks offers, see if you can use Quickbooks in a browser. Being cloud-based, they would probably build a browser version before building a Linux desktop app. If they don’t and you need to run a Windows desktop app on Linux, you can probably do this using Bottles (which uses Wine and Proton under the hood, the tech that enables the Steam Deck).

Nice clean dark theme! Love the thin top bar.

Lovely!

Nice clean dark theme!

Nice clean dark theme!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rice_burner

I don’t think there’s a strong consensus in this community yet, but I would also strongly prefer “customize”, “style” or any other word due to the racist origins of the use of “ricing” in the meaning “to customize”.

Thanks for preparing your comment for my dependency injection! I agree that refactorability of comments is preferable over prematurely optimizing for performance.