no you cant tell anyone youre going to die, you have 24 hours starting now
Call out sick from work, spend the day with my kids, do something meaningful with them, then put them to bed.
Yeah pretty much this.
But if you’re not at work your boss won’t be able to say you were a company man to the last and use your example as a cudgel against the other staff.
meamibgful as in? (edit: as in what things are meaningful to them)
Things that they want to do, go to the park, etc. I wouldn’t want to drag them around to something they probably aren’t in the mood for.
Tbh I think if this genuinely happened and I just found out right now, I would just start walking and not stopping. I would think I’d be the most mindful and alert I have ever been in my life and I wouldn’t want to waste that. I also imagine I would also probably be extremely nice to everyone. Like someone’s walking in the rain or something and I’d just hand them the coat I was wearing for them to keep. It would look really weird lol but I think that’s the kind of hyper-selflessness that you’d just do without even a thought if you knew you were about to die.
Thanks for asking this question btw it’s very intriguing. It makes me wonder if it’s even remotely possible to live each day like it’s your last y’know.
At some point it would become exhausting. You’d be mentally drained all the time; I honestly do not think it’s the best to live life as if every day was the last, else you’d be missing out on life itself. Every single day that we are alive is a day that we experience life. Ups and downs are impossible to avoid, it’s apart of it, but it’s that experience which makes us happy to live - and thinking of every day being the last is allowing yourself to live in a parallel world, experiencing life as a mirage.
That was really insightful tysm for replying. I feel like you’ve thought about this before haha.
Yeah I think you might be right, sometimes it feels like a day’s been wasted because I didn’t spend it exactly how I envision a good day, but there are different kinds of good. Every experience and feeling is unique and it’s hard to say that one experience or feeling is objectively better than another.
Also I like your phrasing ‘happy to live’, it sounds like contendedness which I do believe is possible unlike permanent happiness. Have you heard of that infinite happiness machine thing btw?
Would the phrase “live like you’re going to die young/soon” be better as, atleast for me, it means that you should live life to it’s fullest and try not to waste time on meaningless things
If you live thinking this you’re only focusing on stuff which, at your point in time, find meaningless. Finding meaning in things changes drastically over time, and your point of reference is based on what you believe at a certain moment. During your childhood you probably found playing with toys to be “meaningful”, but now during your adulthood (assuming you’re an adult lol) you look at playing with a firetruck to be meaningless.
See the difference?
The time wasted on meaningless tasks are usually memories and experiences which we hold very dearly to. I’m sure as you get older you will regret not doing a certain thing because you’re too worried about the future, and how different actions will cause different results if you waste a little time. I know for a fact that I already regret not doing the “meaningless” things I thought were a waste of time, like spending more time with my now deceased dog. I took for granted that he was alive, and never really spent nearly as much time as I wish I did, thinking that an hour of work was more important.
Contrary to what I’ve been saying though, the manner of living life like “you’re going to die young” is also pretty valuable. You don’t want to be on the extreme that you simply don’t care about the future, and try to attach meaning to every action you take - it’s destructive.
Really, there’s no “right” way to live life, you can only live, make mistakes, take insight from your mistakes and mistakes from others, and to create your own way of living. It does sound corny as hell, I wont even lie, but think about it and do what you want with the knowledge you have right now.
Thank you for this, I think it’s now more about trying to become fulfilled in whatever position you are in life and trying to make the best out of our lives.
Although, as you said, there isn’t a right way to live, but I personally think that we should strive for improving what we can, with the little power over the world we are given and to avoid hurting and making other people’s lives worse.
I already regret not doing the “meaningless” things I thought were a waste of time, like spending more time with my now deceased dog. I took for granted that he was alive, and never really spent nearly as much time as I wish I did, thinking that an hour of work was more important.
The thing is, I don’t think spending time with loved ones (your dog for example) is meaningless, infact I think it’s very meaningful.
I was not saying that spending time with my dog was meaningless, just that I prioritized my work, indirectly issuing “less” meaning to the time I spent with him. Either way, the past is the past, I can only go up from here.
I was not saying that spending time with my dog was meaningless
Sorry, I’m a bit stupid.
just that I prioritized my work, indirectly issuing “less” meaning to the time I spent with him.
I understand how sometimes we can’t realise how much we’ll regret something until afterwards.
Well said!
I’d like to add that even scrolling social media like Reddit, Facebook, Lemmy etc can be meaningful. I find it’s like walking around town looking at what other people are doing. Listening in on someone ranting from their soap box, participating in some open air discussion, looking at cute cats in the park and learning something from a mechanic talking through a problem with someone standing beside a broken down car. It’s also a social experience even though it can’t be your only social exposure it still provides something.
It really is about variation and moderation. It wouldn’t be meaningful, in my opinion, to spend your life on a rotation of the gym, cooking healthy, reading about those topics, working hard at some nameless corp and sleeping properly. But if you don’t normally go to the gym it’s suddenly meaningful to go. Life is about experiences and about challenging ourselves to find out who to be and how to be the subjective “best” version of ourselves, and that quest has no truly meaningless activities, all roads lead to the end of life and while we might regret some activities that regret in and off itself is a lesson that we took with us.
Tbh I’m not sure lol. Personally I’ve struggled with a lot of mental health issues since I was young so I’m finding it hard to say whether we should live life to its fullest or just accept the feeling of finally feeling ok. What do you consider meaningless btw?
Since reading some other comments, I don’t know what is meaningless anymore, I now think that you could find meaning in everything if you looked.
I think rephrasing the original would do better, it should probably be about living a fulfilling life without harming others and not ignoring good opportunities because you think you should wait until the perfect time that’ll never come.
However this ignores unavoidable pain that we all get in some way or another, in your case mental health, so I’m still not sure what would be a good way to live, as we aren’t always in a decent enough position to take up the kind of opportunities I said earlier.
It’s somewhat of a common topic (life and living) between my wife and I, we share similar philosophies in life so it’s pretty normal for us to expand and better define what we believe. I would like to say we have found a good standing on where and what we believe to understand, but everything changes overtime, and I’m sure that I’ll understand something completely different.
Have you heard of that infinite happiness machine thing btw?
I don’t believe so haha. Sounds strangely dystopian though - mind explaining it?
Delete all my porn and write down all my passwords for my wife.
Convince my spouse to stay home from work and do all her favorite activities, basically give her a really awesome day to remember me by.
Keep browsing.
Honestly why not? You’ll be dead, what does it matter what you do in your final hours? I’d just carry on as was. If you’re religious, then death is just the next step, and your last day won’t mean much. If you’re not, you’re about to cease existing, what would it matter to you then.
Just relax, eat chips, and doom scroll your way to death
Just relax, eat chips, and doom scroll your way to death
But Lemmy is down.
I think you gave “doomscrolling” a whole new meaning.
Maybe hire a hooker. Feed my dog a steak. Write a will. Test drive a hellcat. Hire another hooker.
I’d do it in that order too
I’d worry writing a will then suddenly dying would come off as suspicious.
hookers are rape
no?
guess i’d buy a rifle and take my best shot at improving the world
try to meet with or call everyone i love and tell them how much i love them
I would immediately buy everybody everything on credit, then die.
does credit not transfer
Your debts cannot be transferred to your next of kin when you die, but they will need to be paid out from your estate before it’s disbursed to your family
Ah, my estate. Yes, of course. My estate will certainly pay. 10 of your jumbo credit cards please.
Your estate refers to everything you own. If you own a car, it’ll be sold to cover your debts when you die. Same with your house, all of the food in it, your computer with all of your porn tabs still open, and even your signed vhs collection of rare midget scat porn from the 1990s. It all gets sold off to settle your debts when you die, before it can be distributed to your next of kin.
I’m not optimistic they’ll get much, but you raise a good point. Just the first editions of Bad, Bad Leroy Brown and Shitizen Cane are worth their weight in liquid gold to the right investor.
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Tricky, depends on jurisdiction but generally if you know you’re going to die and thus have no intention to repay the debt then it’s fraud and the thing you buy is technically stolen and you can repossess stolen goods in many jurisdictions. So they (the debt collectors) could come and get the things you gave away. Best way to skirt this is to take out cash from the cards and buy the stuff cash at random places and inform the people you give stuff to keep it on the down low for a while. Even if they suspect it came from you they can’t repossess it without conclusive proof which would be hard to get by.
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wdym ‘estate’, is this an infinite money glitch or not
I’d probably spend the day doing nice things for my wife
Stop worrying. Maybe go out to eat tonight.
Yeah, this would be it. All of my future worries and duties have suddenly been wiped away! Just gonna take it chill and wait for the release.
Nothin. Anything I’d want to do would cost money, and money is the thing I dont have.
Maybe speed things along if nothing else.
we don’t need money, just credit. It’s not like we’ll need to pay it off.
You got 24 hours left to live. You aint getting no credit anywhere fast enough to use before the end of the day.
duh
that assumes you already have a credit line, as one should.
Yeah, I would just chill and ignore everyone’s requests.
Finalize my will.
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i’d tell everyone I could, you cant tell me what to do
Fuck knows. Panic?
