Like there is never comments that even attempts to be like: “Okay here’s what you can do to try to mend the relationship…”

I feel like there’s a conspiracy that the internet is trying to break up as many relationships (and by “relationship” I don’t just mean romance) as possible so people are more isolated and therefore those who rule the world can more easily solidify their control…

  • MolochAlter@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    11 hours ago

    There are a few contributing factors:

    1. Posts asking for this kind of advice always come from people who either did not do anything wrong in the interactions they are describing, or think they did not. Either way they will not offer a fair description of events, which means the readers will be primed to think they are entirely in the right and victimised for no reason by the other party, which is something that does warrant separation over reparation.
    2. There is a general culture of disposability, especially in the US, around everything, not just relationships. You need only check the level of repairability of appliances over the decades to see it in practice, and the mindset extends to most things. Employees don’t work how you want them to? Fire and get new ones, phone broke? Trash it and get a new one, issues with your partner? you get the picture.
    3. In your specific case, @[email protected], you have a tendency to ask a lot of questions about your mental health and perceived shortcomings, and their relationship with your extremely sheltered, unorthodox upbringing, while also being extremely adamant not to do anything to change the relationship you have with your parents. Not to mention the stuff you routinely write in OffMyChest. Do not be surprised, when you bring these connections to the table, that people tell you to distance yourself, since you can also clearly see there is a toxic element to that relationship.