Hello, I would like to say a few words at my mom’s funeral service. I did not do so at my dads funeral because I did not think I could even make it through my first sentence before becoming a puddle on the floor. For those of you who had to do this, was it easier than you thought, or are there any tricks to try and hold it together? I am wondering if once I get up there, instinct will kick in and it won’t be a problem. Sorry if I don’t reply to what you have to say, but I will read all advice and am appreciative of it.
You know how some people have a sympathetic gag reflex if someone is throwing up? That’s me with crying at funerals. Once someone else gets going it’s hard for me to keep it together.
To cope, I crack jokes in my head because it’s easier to fight back laughter than tears, so I concentrate on that.
Basically, try to find something else to focus on instead of all the emotions, but if the emotions come out, that’s all right - it’s a funeral, emotional outbursts are normal.