(I’m just trying to learn. No hidden mockery in this and this is no gotcha bs aimed at t women. I’m NOT transphobic. Just saw this in a debate and wanted to know other people’s thoughts)
I just want to know:
- Is this factually correct?
- If it is, does it matter? Why or why not?
- How would you logically respond to this?
- How does this statement not contradict with Trans Women are Women
Here’s what defending terms like"biological woman" sound like to trans people.
"Oh I wish to be VERY clear. When I say trans -I mean fake. You may call yourself whatever you want but in the end it is presumptuous because at the end of the day you aren’t real. You are your biology , inescapably, until the day you die to me regardless of how society treats you now. No matter what forces of misogyny are enacted upon you daily it is presumptuous to lump yourself in with a group unless you have the innate physical experience fate cheated you of and you mourn the lack of every day. No someone might hunt you down and hurt you for not being man enough. They might rape or traffic you like a woman. You might lose your upper body strength and become vulnerable in the same ways women are and be subject to the institutional inequities they face… But You will always be a man because birth is everything. You can’t have babies after all. You might want them desperately just like any other woman who fate cheated fertility from but in your case it’s different isn’t it?
And don’t be presumptuous to think you understand their experiences!
I am real and I am just fine in my gender. I am implying subtly that you should be too. Being a man is fine I have never had a problem with it and I think you do probably as some kind of weird sexual kink and we do not change our opinions for weird sexual kinks.
No I won’t use your terms but I will do the bare minimum play pretend for you to your face, poor darling, in a way that makes ME comfortable. But the reality is you don’t belong in the same spaces as women. No you are woMAN and I am going to use terms that remind you of that, that signal that I support you being treated as a fake woman. Oh, you want me to adopt a term that acknowledges both you and women as being more similar than different? Well I didn’t chose it or vote for it at council! Never mind nobody asked you if “trans” was the brush you wanted to be tarred with no I am a man and trans men are fake men thats what trans means after all. Why should I allow myself to be called anything? It’s my birthright to be treated as the default! God or chance put you in the position both of us are in and there really isn’t anything anyone can do about takingthe bite out of that is there? Sorry friend Deus vult!"
The only real difference is tone.
Honestly. I thank you for your candour, and I can totally see your point. This is why I’m only sharing opinions here that I’ve honestly never shared and am unlikely to share anywhere else. I appreciate you taking the time to respond to them.
There are a couple edge cases that I’m still struggling with. Firstly, I think there should be women’s-only spaces. A long time ago I did a couple of summer’s work for a ground’s maintenance company. One of the jobs was at a women’s refuge. I presume the people (women and children) there were mostly fleeing domestic abuse. I’ll never forget the look of fear in their collective eyes through the windows and doors as I worked with the two other men trimming hedges and mowing lawns on the property. Clearly their mistrust of men was such that they would be unlikely to accept a trans woman, and I would say asking people like that to make concessions for others would be a step too far. Maybe when they’re stronger, and happier? But not there, in that place.
You’ve outlined very well why there isn’t a reductionist, measurable unit of ‘womanhood’. Either in cells, chromosomes or in some other aspect of our biochemical makeup. I agree with you! I’ve made the case that a better measure of ‘womanhood’ can be found in a more holistic view of the life experiences associated with cis women. I pointed to female reproduction and reproductive health as a specific example. There is another example that I struggle with…
Trans women athletes competing as women in sports. The statistics show that regardless of the instantaneous measures of womanhood through measures of blood testosterone, trans women athletes clearly have a physical advantage over cis women for having a musculature and biomechanical development that likely took place during a period of elevated testosterone. To me this again shows how life history plays a significant part in the nature of the woman (see https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9331831/ ).
What you’ve outlined is a view that accepts a trans woman as a woman. What, from the moment she decides to take that path? Even before she’s applied the first hormone patch? What about the men who were abusive rapists and who decide to transition right before sentencing? Should they be put in an all-women’s prison? I don’t want people to suffer, regardless of sex, gender or orientation, but frankly, the complexities around issues like these make me see that classifications based on life histories are far simpler for other people with sensitivies and needs.
It almost feels like you’re saying the term trans wo/man is an insult. I’ve never considered that before. Is there no room for a trans wo/man to own that phrase and the full reality of their situation? Why are trans people not proud of who they are, what they’ve been through, and where they are, up to an including the things that medical science cannot give them?
Whether trans is an insult depends on how you use it. The way you are using trans changes the implied meaning of trans to something trans people are keyed to implicitly notice - whether it’s being used as a null category.
A lot can be derived from language from relationships. If you have man and trans man you create a non-category. A “not man” a “fake man” if you have cis man and trans man it is an acknowledgement that these are different states of being a man that acknowledges the difference of experience but places the emphasis on manhood and similarity to other men rather than the differences. “Biological man” and “trans man” becomes again man and “disqualified by biology man”. If I am not a “biological man” will you also try and imply I as a trans man am a “biological woman”? Even if I haven’t transitioned at all that’s taking everything I hate about my day to day existence and shoving my face in it.
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I wouldn’t worry about men slipping the noose by pretending to be trans women. If you look at penal systems they basically all conform to a similar model at present. Like the US loves to incarcerate people and last I checked, pre Trump, of the places that actually tracked the number of trans women the count of how many trans women were in women’s prisons was 17 compared to the over 500 in mens prisons. These women may be post op meaning they have neither testes or penetrative organs and they may have been on horomones so long that their bone density, nerve structure and muscle to fat ratio is more in common with a cis woman but there’s no actual guideline for trans people about when they are deserving of the same protections as cis women when in prison. Ending up in a mens prison as a trans woman means rape and assault is basically part of the deal. Furthermore when gender affirming medicine is deemed a luxury in such situations and removed these women don’t have any naturally created Horomones anymore so they effectively go through menopause and osteoporosis at a young age because “it’s outrageous that we should pay for gender affirming care!”. You might have committed the same crime as the people around you but if you’re trans you are doing harder time…because people assume you’re a man or at least not woman enough. Hardly seems like justice where I am standing.
Sports have a similar issue. What is sport for exactly? It can’t all be reaching some kind of physical pinnacle based off arbitrary distinctions of body ratios and hormone levels after all -the Paralympic games exist where different but at least kind of similar disabilities are matched together.
There are way more options in sport as a person with a disability than as a trans person these days. If you are looking at sport from the perspective of a social activity with community attached working towards mutual excellence or as access to pastimes that encourage healthy levels of activity then there’s a massive impediment to access because even things where sexual phenotype doesn’t matter , like sport fishing for instance only, allows trans people to compete in their birth sex category if at all. This segregation forces athletes into single sex spaces that are proven to be psychologically damaging to them defeating any benefits from the activity. There isn’t really a society wide call to make categories that are inclusive co-ed spaces… they are only saying “we don’t want you anywhere”. It’s simply not looked at as a civil rights access to the variety of life issue but a matter of who wins. If a trans woman places 5th in a women’s sport category the question isn’t, how well she was integrated in that community and whether her win/loss ratio was within comparable margins of the cis athletes in her cohort - its that trans people don’t belong there ever.
This framework of relegating a group to the trash bucket based on non categories doesn’t look at trans people as individuals with different physicalities and personalities and inclinations. It doesn’t weigh trans people on a case by case basis - it flattens them into these cut outs where they are always outsiders and never deserving of empathy or consideration because they automatically represent the worst potential aspect of their birth sex. Getting smacked with misandry and misogyny in turns depending on whatever seems the most situationally appropriate to exclude them.
It also doesn’t help that transness is still sort of a cultural failure state and is often internalized by ourselves that way. Oftentimes by the time a trans woman comes out for the first time she’s already in a pit. She already bet the farm on trying to be the best man she could be to fix what ails and it did nothing but drain her of her will to live and she has to accept that being a woman is the only conditions under which she can live because she can already seen the finish line where continuing as is will kill her from where she’s standing. She’s often put off the transition as long as she can and is treading water and minutes from giving up and drowning . So yes. She’s a woman from the moment she says in part because that could be the moment of greatest crisis.
Thank you for your heartfelt response. I can see how broad sweeping rules against trans people would cause great pain, but similarly I see that broadsweeping rules in support of trans people in terms of access to female-only spaces and the right to compete in any and all sports in one’s preferred gender category at any point during transition would lead to issues for others.
I can see how the reality in any given case is far more complex and likely it would need to determined on a case-by-case basis if a trans woman offender should be placed in a women’s prison, for example, or if a trans woman athlete is sufficiently feminised to be a fair competitor for the women’s category. But there it is again… The unwanted interrogation.
The search for ‘femininity’ or ‘masculinity’ in the blood, in the cells, in the bone, in the mind. Is there any fair process here? Do we need one? Do we do away with all of them and put cis women at risk?