My perspective is that it’s going to get hella worse, before it gets better: an addict who isn’t ready to fight addiction is going to go deeper into it, & when they try turning against it, then their own unconscious-mind will trash their life, maybe even kill them, to protect what their unconscious-mind is holding-onto, you know?
& naive making-believing isn’t help, it is “help”.
So, I recommend investing in the fundamentals of enduring decade-long Civil War:
the psychological leverages identified in Kegan & Lahey’s “Immunity to Change”, a book on our unconscious-mind’s stages-of-development, & its fighting-off of growing-up…
IF one allows one’s unconscious-mind to fight-off growing-up, THEN one is more likely to be abuses beating-on-toy, AND one is more likely to be dead, without earning one’s underlying life-potential.
Therefore, learning how to get one’s unconscious-mind to help one grow-up, is one of the more powerful leverages.
Next is Logan, King, & Dr. Fischer-Wright’s “Tribal Leadership”, on the 5 CultureLevels ( they call them “stages”, but caterpillar->moth is stages, irreversible, & frozen/liquid/steam isn’t stages, it is states or modes, because they aren’t 1-way. The CultureLevels only become irreversible at 4 & 5, among some people… anybody bashing around among the lower-3 levels, can go down or up, endlessly )
Five: Positive-Sum Game, Win-Win Alliance culture
Four: WE are awesome, THEY are not culture
Three: Zero-Sum Game: competitive-narcissism culture, like doctors ( go walk into any normal hospital, & see how the junior-staff won’t look you in the eye, if you walk-in wearing a professional’s clothes & manner: their validity/dignity has been obliterated in the narcissism of medical-culture. Look around for somebody whose bodylanguage REEKS of narcissism: that’s going to be a doctor. It’s comically bad: acting-schools should be using clinics & hospitals for studying that bodylanguage! The book-authors aren’t as cynical about it as I am: dad was a medical-researcher & doctor, & I ended up going no-contact with both parents, for years-at-a-time, to undo the butchery they put in my mind… Not their fault, but … I hope this world changes )
Two: “MY life sucks”, subject-to-narcissism culture
One: Negative-Sum Game, Competitive Nihilism. mass-shooters, dictators who’re destroying as much lives as they can, racking-up some kind of “high score”, before they die. Netanyahu & Putin seem to be doing that now, & Trump seems bent on outclassing all of them, soon.
Notice how manufacturing CultureLevel1 “justifies” police-state, which enforces CultureLevel1 even more?
Notice that Trump’s manufacturing homelessness as fast as his regime can?
Once he finally crosses the tipping-point, he’ll just de-naturalize everybody who won’t vow allegiance to him, & everybody else suddenly is “illegals”, & that is what ICE really is for: Civil War 2.
Now is just “appatizer”.
So, becoming competent in making one’s CultureLevel be 3 or 4 or 5 becomes a survival-means, see?
All this is of the “The kingdom of establishment, without, is inferior to the kingdom of G-D, within: one’s meaning, one’s Soul” paradigm.
“21 Days to Resilience” and “Gaslighting” are books I’d recommend, to build psychic muscle & immunity…
Fundamentally, one has to have help, though: grow your relationship with LivingSpirit.
Not this, or that, “religion”, but with universal, endlessly-healing, LivingSpirit.
All the religions which put themselves in G-D’s place, with their “it isn’t G-D that is The Only Savior, it is OUR RELIGION-REGIME that is The Only Savior”, or you can substitute the word “Way” for “Savior”, & it’ll still be the same thing: putting itself in G-D’s place…
That isn’t universal.
It doesn’t really work.
LivingSpirit’s universal.
Grow relationship with it, however many years it takes to get the hang of something so subtle ( unlike the junk/distractions/addictions of this world ), but it IS real, & it DOES grow healing in one, the more one’s … weaving into it, or weaving it into one, or something like that ( embracing, or weaving, … something like that ).
Ah! Know, also, that there is a cycle of 4 stages of life, & it makes sense to be doing one’s-own stage, not what others are telling one to be!
absorbing-experiencing ( correlates with Kegan’s unconscious-mind-development stage 3 )
pushing-out-meaning-violating-one’s-identity ( correlates with Kegan’s stage 4 )
letting-go, dissolving & making-do, preparing for going into dissolution…
IF one were to pretend that some lives spend 3 decades in each condition,
THEN one would have a “crayons” picture of human-life, an oversimplified-cartoon…
But even an oversimplified-cartoon can communicate enough to help people orient, right?
So, while Kegan identified that many never leave the absorbing-meaning stage, until they die, of old age…
so there’s NO law making people go into the next stage…
but knowing that each phase is going to last decades, not mere-years…
that is important.
IF someone is in the absorbing-meaning phase, THEN pushing them to be “alpha” is pushing them to be what they aren’t:
they’re supposed to be experiencing all kinds of meaning, to discover what’s in them!
Once one gets into the pushing-meaning-out phase, THEN pushiness becomes natural.
The whole domineer+doormat “relationship” which is traditional, a Kegan4 with a Kegan3, isn’t as “wonderful” as it pretends to be.
( Kegan doesn’t index the states the way I do: he names them all.
I’m fed-up with zillions of psychology-dimensions all needing individual-names, so I’m only indexing them, now.
Kegan0-7, in my system, Kahneman1-2, etc… )
Domineer+doormat is only ego-food for the domineer, really…
Diversity-of-experiencing. That is what the young adult-minds need: finding which meanings within one are worth cultivating, see?
& if one gets to Kegan6, which Robert Kegan never identified, but it’s obvious, if one is experiencing it, self-conquering: all the advantages of Kegan4 & Kegan5, together…
Life, then, becomes … self-inherently better.
There was a man in Auschwitz, who became a world-renouned psychologist…
don’t remember his name, sorry,
he realized that the guards had physical-liberty, but their minds were trapped by ideology.
He had no physical-liberty, but he was free.
THAT is the kind of freedom which can get one through what’s coming, alive, but it takes guts & renunciation, both, it takes intelligence & wisdom, both, it takes LivingSpirit relationship & it takes getting the evil & harm forced into one, OUT from one, so one can have living within one’s own self ( opposite of PTSD ).
IOW, I’m recommending that one be inherently-living, instead of ideologically-“living”, as a means of surviving the coming Republican dictatorship, until it implodes, next decade.
That’s a very long schema. Also, I looked who you were talking about, and I’m pretty sure you were talking about Viktor Frankl who pioneered logotherapy in which it involves finding meaning in life as the central motivation force.
That said, is it okay you boil down this schema for me?
My perspective is that it’s going to get hella worse, before it gets better: an addict who isn’t ready to fight addiction is going to go deeper into it, & when they try turning against it, then their own unconscious-mind will trash their life, maybe even kill them, to protect what their unconscious-mind is holding-onto, you know?
& naive making-believing isn’t help, it is “help”.
So, I recommend investing in the fundamentals of enduring decade-long Civil War:
the psychological leverages identified in Kegan & Lahey’s “Immunity to Change”, a book on our unconscious-mind’s stages-of-development, & its fighting-off of growing-up…
IF one allows one’s unconscious-mind to fight-off growing-up, THEN one is more likely to be abuses beating-on-toy, AND one is more likely to be dead, without earning one’s underlying life-potential.
Therefore, learning how to get one’s unconscious-mind to help one grow-up, is one of the more powerful leverages.
Next is Logan, King, & Dr. Fischer-Wright’s “Tribal Leadership”, on the 5 CultureLevels ( they call them “stages”, but caterpillar->moth is stages, irreversible, & frozen/liquid/steam isn’t stages, it is states or modes, because they aren’t 1-way. The CultureLevels only become irreversible at 4 & 5, among some people… anybody bashing around among the lower-3 levels, can go down or up, endlessly )
Five: Positive-Sum Game, Win-Win Alliance culture Four: WE are awesome, THEY are not culture Three: Zero-Sum Game: competitive-narcissism culture, like doctors ( go walk into any normal hospital, & see how the junior-staff won’t look you in the eye, if you walk-in wearing a professional’s clothes & manner: their validity/dignity has been obliterated in the narcissism of medical-culture. Look around for somebody whose bodylanguage REEKS of narcissism: that’s going to be a doctor. It’s comically bad: acting-schools should be using clinics & hospitals for studying that bodylanguage! The book-authors aren’t as cynical about it as I am: dad was a medical-researcher & doctor, & I ended up going no-contact with both parents, for years-at-a-time, to undo the butchery they put in my mind… Not their fault, but … I hope this world changes ) Two: “MY life sucks”, subject-to-narcissism culture One: Negative-Sum Game, Competitive Nihilism. mass-shooters, dictators who’re destroying as much lives as they can, racking-up some kind of “high score”, before they die. Netanyahu & Putin seem to be doing that now, & Trump seems bent on outclassing all of them, soon.
Notice how manufacturing CultureLevel1 “justifies” police-state, which enforces CultureLevel1 even more?
Notice that Trump’s manufacturing homelessness as fast as his regime can?
Once he finally crosses the tipping-point, he’ll just de-naturalize everybody who won’t vow allegiance to him, & everybody else suddenly is “illegals”, & that is what ICE really is for: Civil War 2.
Now is just “appatizer”.
So, becoming competent in making one’s CultureLevel be 3 or 4 or 5 becomes a survival-means, see?
All this is of the “The kingdom of establishment, without, is inferior to the kingdom of G-D, within: one’s meaning, one’s Soul” paradigm.
“21 Days to Resilience” and “Gaslighting” are books I’d recommend, to build psychic muscle & immunity…
Fundamentally, one has to have help, though: grow your relationship with LivingSpirit.
Not this, or that, “religion”, but with universal, endlessly-healing, LivingSpirit.
All the religions which put themselves in G-D’s place, with their “it isn’t G-D that is The Only Savior, it is OUR RELIGION-REGIME that is The Only Savior”, or you can substitute the word “Way” for “Savior”, & it’ll still be the same thing: putting itself in G-D’s place…
That isn’t universal.
It doesn’t really work.
LivingSpirit’s universal.
Grow relationship with it, however many years it takes to get the hang of something so subtle ( unlike the junk/distractions/addictions of this world ), but it IS real, & it DOES grow healing in one, the more one’s … weaving into it, or weaving it into one, or something like that ( embracing, or weaving, … something like that ).
Ah! Know, also, that there is a cycle of 4 stages of life, & it makes sense to be doing one’s-own stage, not what others are telling one to be!
IF one were to pretend that some lives spend 3 decades in each condition, THEN one would have a “crayons” picture of human-life, an oversimplified-cartoon…
But even an oversimplified-cartoon can communicate enough to help people orient, right?
So, while Kegan identified that many never leave the absorbing-meaning stage, until they die, of old age… so there’s NO law making people go into the next stage…
but knowing that each phase is going to last decades, not mere-years…
that is important.
IF someone is in the absorbing-meaning phase, THEN pushing them to be “alpha” is pushing them to be what they aren’t: they’re supposed to be experiencing all kinds of meaning, to discover what’s in them!
Once one gets into the pushing-meaning-out phase, THEN pushiness becomes natural.
The whole domineer+doormat “relationship” which is traditional, a Kegan4 with a Kegan3, isn’t as “wonderful” as it pretends to be.
( Kegan doesn’t index the states the way I do: he names them all.
I’m fed-up with zillions of psychology-dimensions all needing individual-names, so I’m only indexing them, now.
Kegan0-7, in my system, Kahneman1-2, etc… )
Domineer+doormat is only ego-food for the domineer, really…
Diversity-of-experiencing. That is what the young adult-minds need: finding which meanings within one are worth cultivating, see?
& if one gets to Kegan6, which Robert Kegan never identified, but it’s obvious, if one is experiencing it, self-conquering: all the advantages of Kegan4 & Kegan5, together…
Life, then, becomes … self-inherently better.
There was a man in Auschwitz, who became a world-renouned psychologist…
don’t remember his name, sorry,
he realized that the guards had physical-liberty, but their minds were trapped by ideology.
He had no physical-liberty, but he was free.
THAT is the kind of freedom which can get one through what’s coming, alive, but it takes guts & renunciation, both, it takes intelligence & wisdom, both, it takes LivingSpirit relationship & it takes getting the evil & harm forced into one, OUT from one, so one can have living within one’s own self ( opposite of PTSD ).
IOW, I’m recommending that one be inherently-living, instead of ideologically-“living”, as a means of surviving the coming Republican dictatorship, until it implodes, next decade.
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That’s a very long schema. Also, I looked who you were talking about, and I’m pretty sure you were talking about Viktor Frankl who pioneered logotherapy in which it involves finding meaning in life as the central motivation force.
That said, is it okay you boil down this schema for me?