I am probably quite agender, as I have no intrinsic sense of my gender. I simply accepted my AGAB (assigned gender at birth) without questioning it. At some point, I realized that I don’t feel any connection to this gender, no feeling like other people have. I also don’t see it as something that influences my personality and I don’t apply to gender norms. I just don’t care about gender. (This btw. also makes it harder for me to understand people whose sense of gender is so strong that they even reject their AGAB, although I accept their feeling, of course.) So how do you “feel” gender?
In my opinion, it’s a bit of a misnomer, where “feel gender” really means “experiencing joy through gender expression in ways that are not typical of your AGAB”. For instance, a person AFAB may “feel gender” by shaving their head, or a person AMAB may “feel gender” by wearing skirts and feminine cosmetics (blush, mascara, etc.)
My relationship with gender didn’t so much manifest that way.
Before I came out and accepted myself, I openly told myself I “should have been a girl”, but I also believed I wasn’t, and that was that. I didn’t really feel anything at the idea of femininity. That was my experience of feeling gender
Thanks for sharing, hopefully OP gets some good insight from these responses.