I’m under average sized, but my fiancé and I have a good sex life. She enjoys sex with me (that part isn’t in question). She reacts and sometimes even has light PIV orgasms when we do.

She’s also shared that in some positions she doesn’t feel as much physically. She still values the emotional connection and wants me inside her, and we do this very often.

However, after some conversation, we agreed to buy an expensive very realistic dildo that’s significantly larger than me… The size difference is obvious, and when we use it together, her physical reactions and orgasms are noticeably more intense. I use it with a harness and pretend it’s me, and I know for certain that’s the only reason it even works for her. For context I’m 4” long and 4” circumference, and the dildo is 8” long by 6”.

I know a lot of guys might find this embarrassing, but I like to see her get pleasure. Do you see any potential downside to this?

  • JBrady64@lemmy.worldOP
    21·
    17 hours ago

    Thanks! It took me a little while to get over the huge size difference, but watching her go wild and have huge Os makes it worth it.

    • Thurstylark@lemmy.todayEnglish
      5·
      14 hours ago

      This is the right attitude. I would encourage folks to be a bit less goal-oriented (orgasms don’t have to be everything), but you’ve got the spirit, and you get credit for that.

      There is absolutely no shame in providing your partner with a good time, regardless of the tools involved in the process. Whether those tools are part of one’s body or not matters very little in the grand scheme of things.