My natural instincts seem like all the things you need to avoid with an avoidant partner like overwhelming intensity of feelings, going all in, oversharing, excitement, showing raw feelings etc. I was wondering if it’s even sustainable.

In case it’s not a run while you can scenario, I would appreciate any advice for an early talking stage with an avoidant and later stages if it goes well

Thanks!!

  • lime!@feddit.nu
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    2 days ago

    you’re describing it like you’re both generic stereotypes of your conditions rather than individuals with unique wants and needs. just communicate with eachother.

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      People that have an avoidant attachment style are likely to have a difficult time communicating effectively when things aren’t going well.

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        1 day ago

        likely, yes. not certain. it depends on the person. that’s why communicating when things are going well is important.