I don’t quite believe this, but since I quit my last position and started my new one within the same hospital system, I’ve been offered 2 positions: OR and Radiology.
OR is interesting because they work with so many active ingredients, they monitor patients constantly, they get to interpret ECG and electrolyte imbalances. You can learn and work with cool stuff.
Most of the coworkers there are mature: they do their job, they explain the rationale, they teach me stuff. I like it.
There are 2 childish gossips incapable of shutting their mouths to talk about the most inane stuff thinkable. I like using downtime to learn, not to talk about boring stuff. These kind of people have always wasted my time and energy.
This is what I wanted to tell the charge: I see a future with you, only if these 2 people do not take part in my orientation (3 to 6 months) and if during downtime they do not pester me with inane stuff, but let me learn. I do not talk about my private life at work, I’m on the introverted side and when people force me to talk to them it drains me. I’ve worked at units where managers promised a genuine and serious orientation, but the staff were more focused on gossip than on teaching me. I don’t need that. I want to be around people who take orientation as seriously as I do.
Radiology would be similar I guess.
reasons to say yes: you do you, you tell them what they need to provide so you can excel at your job.
reasons to say no: I become the asshole, as I’d be breaking the peace.
If you absolutely demand change you need to have an answer to allay the manager’s fears that the changes you require will be a net negative for the group; that unserious gossipy annoying group that is setting the current bar for success.
From the inane gossipper’s perspective you could appear easily distracted, argumentative, and unserious. You’ve declared that their stress management rituals may be such a hindrance that you’d reject a promotion to avoid participating. That answer could gain you enemies even if you don’t even interview if it’s not kept confidential.
I hope this is received as contingency planning and not an insult. I don’t think those things and I also hate work gossip, but in this scenario you’re the out-group until you get in. It behooves you to become a quiet friend instead of gossip fodder. I hope you can play this field successfully and good luck!
for sure. nurses can be this vicious
I rewrote that sentence multiple times and it still came out awkward. oof