I don’t quite believe this, but since I quit my last position and started my new one within the same hospital system, I’ve been offered 2 positions: OR and Radiology.

OR is interesting because they work with so many active ingredients, they monitor patients constantly, they get to interpret ECG and electrolyte imbalances. You can learn and work with cool stuff.

Most of the coworkers there are mature: they do their job, they explain the rationale, they teach me stuff. I like it.

There are 2 childish gossips incapable of shutting their mouths to talk about the most inane stuff thinkable. I like using downtime to learn, not to talk about boring stuff. These kind of people have always wasted my time and energy.

This is what I wanted to tell the charge: I see a future with you, only if these 2 people do not take part in my orientation (3 to 6 months) and if during downtime they do not pester me with inane stuff, but let me learn. I do not talk about my private life at work, I’m on the introverted side and when people force me to talk to them it drains me. I’ve worked at units where managers promised a genuine and serious orientation, but the staff were more focused on gossip than on teaching me. I don’t need that. I want to be around people who take orientation as seriously as I do.

Radiology would be similar I guess.

reasons to say yes: you do you, you tell them what they need to provide so you can excel at your job.

reasons to say no: I become the asshole, as I’d be breaking the peace.

  • Boozilla@lemmy.worldEnglish
    5·
    1 day ago

    Some extroverts assume quiet people are “weird and creepy”. They gossip and pry into your business to test you, to see if you’re “safe” to work with. It’s a common form of hazing. They are filtering for who they think they can trust.

    If you want the job: try to “gray rock” them until they get bored with you. They’ll never trust you, but they might leave you alone or assume you’re a harmless boring weirdo. Or they might decide to make your job a living hell until you transfer out. Depends on how vicious they are.

    You can’t control them, but you can refuse to engage at their jr high level.

    • vestmoria@linux.community
      OPEnglish
      32·
      23 hours ago

      It’s a common form of hazing.

      jesus chirst, I just read the wikipedia article on hazing and now I’m scared.

      You can’t control them, but you can refuse to engage at their jr high level.

      they’ll badmouth me all the way to management.

      better to stay where I am. Holy crap.

      Why do people have to be like this?

      • Boozilla@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        22 hours ago

        Sorry I wasn’t more encouraging. I guess I have become a bit jaded regarding overly extroverted coworkers over the years. I do think going to management would probably do more harm than good. Only you can judge how obnoxious the gossiping folks are, and your own tolerance threshold for it. I’m just some rando on the internet. But I do completely empathize with your situation.