I learned what non violent communication is a day ago and I’m using it to mend a friendship.
Have you however used it at the workplace?
I find it unpractical: there are so many things to do at the workplace and the last thing stressed people with deadlines need is to have a conversation about feelings, but maybe I’m wrong?
A question for nurses working bedside: do you actually use non violent communication at your ward with your patients and actually have time to do your other duties, like charting, preparing infusions and meds, dealing with providers, insurance, the alcoholic who fights you, the demented one who constantly tries to leave the unit, the one who wants to leave ama (against medical advice)?
It reminds me of people on LGBT forums and seeing shit like: “I’m a man, and I like women, but I don’t feel sexual attraction towards all of them, only the ones I feel a connection with; what are my labels?”…and wanting to scream “NORMAL! NORMAL IS YOUR LABEL! WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE?!”.
Meanwhile everyone is like “Oh, you’re ace+/romantic”…/sigh…
We really need to bring back the “it’s complicated” label but for sexuality instead of relationships. We can just dump 90% of people in there and call it a day.
Tribalism has run rampant. Stuff like this is fairly innocuous if a bit much. When people get militant about it then it becomes a problem.
what i really wonder is why you gotta bring out your bigotry if you just disagree with the concept of non-violent communication?
How is this bigoted? And who said I disagree with non-violent communication? You know what we call that? – Just communication.
You might want to re-read what I wrote. You either seem to have missed a key portion of it, or because you saw the letters “LGBT” you’ve somehow immediately primed yourself for confrontation…
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oh yes, i can see now you have no idea what NVC is about or where it can be used. you just want to feel superior, which is okay because i’m the same. but what’s with the dunking on rainbow folks?
Nobody is “dunking” on LGBT folks. The presented scenario is literally of a completely straight person invading those spaces. You really have a problem with reading comprehension, you know that? I’m even, quite literally, presenting them in a positive, helpful light in this scenario, as they’re being inclusive and presenting labels for this completely straight person to present with. So what’s your damn problem?
You’re making an argument of absurd literalism. You argue that the name “non violent communication” is inappropriate because all language is non-violent by definition.
But obviously any description of language will be in the context of language. Words can be fearful, as in they display clear fear by their speaker, even though obviously words themselves cannot experience emotion. Language could be called “confusing,” even though language has no will, can take no action, and cannot confuse anyone.
Obviously words themselves are not physical things. That doesn’t mean language cannot be violent. Language can be violent in the exact same way language can be proud, boastful, joyful, and a thousand other things that words themselves are incapable of directly being or doing.
You’re performing an exercise in literalist absurdity. Is your name Amelia Bedelia by any chance?
The problem with the term “non-violent communication”, is that we don’t preface things that we describe based on their lack of something.
You might as well call it “non-love communication”…get it?
We don’t call driving to work “non-violent driving”, we just call it driving.
We don’t call our jobs “non-slavery labor”. You’re practicing absurdity in order to proclaim some higher order of thinking, but you’re just being silly.