this is a coworker.
to me a clear no, this person jokes about it and smiles. I can share her frustration with stupid job tasks, demanding clients, or having to get up too early, commute… I find her genuine and full of energy, I like working with her, she’s sincere. I like that in people, she likes to help.
However, other 2 female colleagues have the opposite point of view: there is something that troubles her because she constantly jokes about death, killing herself due to some clients, waking up early…
We all agree she is so full of energy, my colleagues say she jokes about it constantly. I hear her joking about once or twice a day.
Am I being naive?
It can be. It depends on context and tone.
If they say that shit with a tone of defeat, I’d address it head on. If it’s typical banter like this sucks kind of tone then whatever.
People say a lot of concerning shit if you take everything that they say literally. Fact is that a lot of us use sarcasm and hyperbole as coping mechanisms.
Today, I joked with a buddy at work that the day made me want to hang myself from my shoelaces. I have zero suicidal ideation right now, I’m just unhappy that I have to put up with the people I have to work with right now. He’s much the same, sick of the shit, so he gets me.
It really depends on the tone and context more than anything.